On Pain and Suffering

I never knew what the long term effects of physical pain could bring until I experienced it myself. As a healer I have encountered many with physical pain as well as emotional, interdimensional and multidimensional pain and worked to help heal this. Acute pain is more easily healed than chronic pain and yet chronic pain can be healed as well – through alternative methods. The healing process for our lives is always evolving whether that pain be emotional, somatic, spiritual or combinations.

Pain and suffering if not visible is not readily acknowledged by people without pain and is sometimes dismissed as not real by people who are relatively pain free.

As a result and the nature of pain and inflammation tend to isolate those that are experiencing pain. The natural response of humans towards pain is the avoidance of pain. When pain is severe enough the avoidance of pain is part of our survival of it. Pain management whether by supplements, medications, surgery, stem-cell treatments, physical therapy or alternative healing techniques begins to take up space and time in our consciousness and begin to limit mobility and tends to isolate those in pain.

Two reasons why people in pain isolate: the pain itself and the meta-response of others to pain.

When we see someone in pain whether that be physical, emotional, mental or spiritual there seems to be two responses: to move away or to move towards. The desire to help those in pain usually falls into two groups: fixing pain and bearing witness to pain.

Those that work to fix pain offer advice etc. Bearing witness to pain without doing anything to fix it does something to us and we connect to the other in pain. When we connect to another in pain via an emphatic response we share a small part of the other’s suffering. As we do this it reminds us of our own pain and suffering and the experience can be painful.

Those that turn away from suffering – especially those that encounter loved ones that “don’t get better” and harden their hearts making the suffering one a victim. The one in pain – a brother or a sister, mother, father, son or daughter, colleague etc., it’s somehow their fault they are not getting better. The denial of suffering is an easy way to feel safe an insulated from other’s suffering and pain and begin to establish an “us versus them” dynamic.

By softening and opening our hearts to others pain and suffering while acknowledging our own and bear witness we can begin to release it somewhat.

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