Actually forget resolutions all together. Who needs a resolution when you have a solution?
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determined, purposeful, resolved, adamant, single-minded, firm, unswerving, unwavering, steadfast, staunch, stalwart, unfaltering, unhesitating, persistent, indefatigable, tenacious, strong-willed, unshakable
And used in a sentence: He had been an early and resolute opponent of fascism. – from a dictionary.
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But to be a slave of a linear time based reality – example – the Gregorian Calendar. Let’s face it – time as we know it is an invention and language too. We are bound by the constructs of linear time. Grammar, sentences and words are symbols of reality and time is a convenient construct used to manage our daily lives. All sentences have a beginning, a middle and an end. Linear time is this way too.
We could choose another calendar system to base our resolutions on. The Gregorian Calendar isn’t particularly connected to a natural cycle as is a lunar calendar or the Mayan or Toltec calendars appear to be.
But why do we need resolutions anyway and who in us makes them and then breaks them later? Where does our resolve go?
- We resolve to make a change based on a calendar that was a course correction on a flawed Julian Calendar (inventing leap year every 4 years to make the correction) Also when the Gregorian Calendar started Pope Gregory XIII and his commission suspended the calendar and had 15 non-days or dates before restarting the dates. Maybe the anniversary of our birth may be a better day to make a resolution or a promise to ourselves.
- Before making restarting “a promise” to ourselves on January 1st we could look to see if we are living up to the philosophy of our own life. A friend of mine in a college doctoral program did a study on 6th graders – those children about 11 years old, asking them about their philosophy of life – the rules they aspired to and were they living up to those rules? Most were not. When I first outlined my philosophy of life in 1979 at the suggestion of What Color is Your Parachute by Richard Bolles. It spurred me to get work and transform the path of my life. The three principles of my philosophy at that time were:
– To be a student and teacher everyday
– To live from my heart
– To live as if each moment were my last
The first two I aspire to realizing that learning is a part of life and one cannot always be in one’s heart with the amount of suffering that is all around. I dropped the last one.
- I have come to see that the part in me that makes a promise (or a resolution) is not the same part in me that breaks the promise. The “I” that makes the promise may or may not be aware of the part that breaks the promise. The “I” the breaks the promise is often not aware of the promise-maker because that “I” is child-like and acting on whim. Better to understand our entire “Beingness” before making and breaking promises and then another part, another “I” feels guilty and gets into blaming and shaming ourselves.