Trump’s Perfect

Perfect as misogynistic male.

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A perfect horrific characterization of the worst of the crumbling patriarchy.

 

Trump’s example has encouraged the callous disregard of women, minorities, non-Christian religions, the LGBT communities and non-whites. He is the penultimate example of male entitlement and an inherent narcissist intrinsic to every male within the patriarchal structure. Anyone who is not Trump is an enemy to be crushed and is analogous to unaware male thinking and behaviors. (Of course many men have or are recognizing the gross power imbalances within the patriarchy and are seeking to work on it within themselves and outwardly as well. The first problem is to recognize there is a problem.)

The requirements of world community necessitate cooperation and a philosophy that states: “What I do to you, I do to myself.”

It’s inevitable that he appeared in our zeitgeist as the patriarchy begins its long fall from grace as the model in which we conduct ourselves. This hierarchical structure no longer works because the male as ruler is gone, meaning that it is no longer supported energetically.

“What I do to you, I do to myself.”

We only need look at the complex problems of climate change and the community between nations needed to solve this problem to see the eventual demise of the patriarchy. The requirements of world community necessitate cooperation and a philosophy that states: “What I do to you, I do to myself.”

The partisanship of politicians and people focused on division is orchestrated by old world rich and powerful old boy network devised to stop cooperation.

“What I do to you, I do to myself.” = “You” includes all peoples, all animals, all plants, the ecology and being of earth. It does not make “you” into an object for manipulation, nor does it in “doing” dismiss, diminish, revile, denigrate or render you invisible. The action of “doing” allows equal footing for relationship to develop and grow in a sacred world of partnership.

If I disrespect you, dishonor you, am violent, I deny your sacredness, your being, and your right to thrive and exist with me in the world. If I do this I am acting in the same way towards myself and making myself an object – denying that I am sacred.

To defeat him is to offer a progressive solution of community that is so irresistible

The partisanship of politicians and people focused on division is orchestrated by old world rich and powerful old boy network devised to stop cooperation. Trump is the penultimate manipulator of bickering, fomenting anger and rage to keep us stuck.

To defeat him is to offer a progressive solution of community that is so irresistible that even Trump would want to join. Of course he would have to abandon his pathological narcissism, which is highly improbable.

Everything the Trump personifies do not give in to hatred, anger, this is what he foments to keep negative attention on himself.* Minimize venting and focus your superhero character on your Change Agent persona. Perform an action a day to support progress and an equal playing field for all.

Find the goodness within that supports the common good and go forward with that reshaping capitalism and returning democracy to a common sense intelligence of the people.

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* Obi Wan to Luke Skywalker – “don’t give into anger and hate that leads to the dark side.” “Star Wars” created by George Lucas

A Short Story: Rump, Impeachment and the 2020 elections

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America will need healing on a massive scale

Here is a short science-fiction story: Some time back I made a prediction based on visions that were revealed to me that Rump would leave office in June of 2019.

https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2017/12/01/vision-and-the-headline-reads/

Fact or Fiction?

Recently that changed and I saw him completing his term.

That lasted until today when I received new information that the impeachment process will begin on June 1, 2019. When it nears completion in August or September (or during its process) it’s likely that Rump will do one of the following:

  • Create or foment a crisis to sway the impeachment vote and invoke Marshall Law
  • Have a medical emergency and leave office
  • Leave office before the final vote but not resign
  • Resign and be pardoned by Tence
  • Arrange for an “accidental” death of a Senator
  • Be the first president to be impeached.

If Rump is nominated to be re-elected the impeachment process would be catastrophic to his re-election bid.

Nevertheless America will need healing on a massive scale.

The Luckiest of Days: Friday the 13th

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Sacred Day: Friday April 13, 2018 at 13:13:13 GMT

History

The patriarch authority in the form of Christian monks demonized all Goddess worship in order to suppress and replace pagan rituals.

Friday or the Goddess Freya was called unlucky by the Christian authority because it was a day of the sacred female divinity. Friday the 13th was made to be unlucky because it was associated with the 13th month of the year in the Menstrual Calendar. [1]

In many religions Friday was (is) considered the 7th day of the week and is the most sacred day.

Fish was eaten on Fridays as a fertility right, which was later absorbed into a Christian ritual. [1]

The Church in Europe used the Julian calendar. Peasants used the Menstrual or Goddess-Given calendar. The Lunar calendar was 13 months of 28 days each, each week being 7 days. (13×28=364 plus 1) – was the Menstrual Calendar that conformed to the cycles or phases of the moon namely:

  • New
  • Waxing
  • Full
  • Waning

The Moon cycles correspond with a woman’s menstrual cycle thus the Menstrual Calendar. [2]

Chinese women established a lunar calendar about 3,000 years ago dividing the stellar sky into 28 “mansions” that the moon transversed. The Great Mayan calendar had first been based on “her menstrual cycles”. The word “mensis” is Latin for month, Greek, Middle English and High German – moon. [2]

No one knows – as in a documented sense where this suppression and demonization of woman / the Goddess arises. Astrologer Jeffery Wolf Green writes about the end of the matriarchy and beginnings of the patriarchy in his astrology books. The male rebellion against the Goddess appeared to contain the seeds of the hatred and repudiation of the feminine within a patriarchal dominated culture.

Green states (am I am summarizing and paraphrasing) that women believed that spirit – the divine worked through men to delivery the seed for children to come into the womb of women. Men were superfluous vessels for the seed to be carried. The seed or sperm did not originate with men it originated in the divine feminine and men were hollow vessels in service to the Goddess. The matriarchy raised children in a group setting, there was no family with a man as the leader. All property was held communally. There was no need for weapons of war, no armies, no defense against invaders because everyone lived this way for a few thousand years. [3]

Green states that men became increasingly angry over time and began to over throw female leadership in a violent acting-out manner of raping, pillaging and murder on a massive scale. [3]

What evolved out of that was the family. The man was the leader and the owner of woman and children. I would be remiss if I didn’t write about the legacy of anger that each man holds over women, other men and children as well as dominion over “the earth”.

Some men continue to act-out this anger in the context of the patriarchal system without any self-awareness. Other men have or are continuing to struggle to examine the legacy of anger and the anger within themselves to find a cause for it and work on resolving it responsibly as it arises.

Until more men can and do step forward individually and as a group to own the accountability and responsibility for crimes against the other outside their gender then the legacy of anger will continue. This hard-wiring of anger is oppositional to all the principles of the matriarchy and the divine-feminine.

  • The matriarchy held all life as sacred with horizontal leadership
  • The matriarchy held all property communally.
  • The matriarchy treats property with equal rights and equal access.
  • The matriarchy held earth as a sacred being of the divine

 

  • The patriarchy holds the yang principle as supreme with hierarchical leadership.
  • The patriarchy holds only the elite or upper class as property owners.
  • The patriarchy is entitled to subjugate and enslave lower classes as property
  • The patriarchy in its rebellion against the matriarchy treats earth as an object to be used and consumed in a hierarchical matrix

 

 

Friday 4/13/18 at 13:13:13 Universal Time (1:13 pm GMT London, England)

The Divine Feminine Numbers:

Friday as the 7th day of the week represents constant rapid change

Four represent a foundation to be built upon

13 – the 13 months of the lunar year or menstrual calendar

2018 – 2 + 0 + 1 + 8 = 11

11 is Justice and/or a master number for building the new.

 

The Tarot Numbers:

 

month – 4

date – 13

hour (in military time) – 13

minutes – 13

seconds – 13

last two digits of the year – 18

equals – 74

add – (20 – the beginning two numbers of 2018) 2 + 0 + 7+ 4

equals – 13

add 1 + 3 = 4

 

Major Arcana:

13 is Death or Transformation (the Divine Feminine Principle)

4 is The Emperor – a principle of growth through a foundation of conflict seeking resolution

 

 

Astrology:

[All degrees in the chart (see illustration) are rounded up one degree if the number – not in bold is 1 minute or greater.]

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Patriarchal Authority is highlighted and exhaled in authoritarianism. It is poised for a yang-based transformation triggered by a revolution of self. Patriarchal authority continues to go through a cycles of death and rebirth and this same authority is transforming the divine feminine. Goddess energies are making spiritual and emotional connections to the world community. Goddess energies are most likely to reveal an abundance of secrets set to transform the world of authority aka the patriarch. Communications and thinking are likely to be intense and in conflict seeking resolution with authority.

1. The Woman’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets,  Barbara Walker “Friday” pg 325-326

2. The Woman’s Encyclopedia of Myths and Secrets,  Barbara Walker “Menstrual Calendar” pg 645-648

3. Pluto: The Evolutionary Journey of the Soul, Volume 1, Jeffery Wolf Green

Difficult Times – it’s not what you think.

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Uranus on the left and right in infrared & Earth in an EM field

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The Patriarchy has Ended.            An Introduction to Higher Consciousness – Part Two

If you’re a progressive there’s a tendency to be pulled into the fray of bashing Trump. Its easy to succumb to the frustrations that the actions of Trump and the GOP / Conservatives elicit in us. When we engage in bashing we may feel better, vindicated, surrounded by others that believe as we do – as in a club of like-mindedness.

Before continuing context is important:

  • Climate Change / Global Warming / Extreme Weather
  • Dwindling natural resources
  • Explosive Advances in Technology
  • Eroding or disappearing democracy
  • Increased diseases including auto-immune diseases
  • Over-population
  • Sensory, intellectual, emotional and spiritual overwhelm
  • Income Inequality

Back to Trump and the social-political zeitgeist. On a deeper level we know that Trump really isn’t the problem at all. He’s a symptom and a very odious and obvious symptom like a giant pus-filled pimple on the tip of the nose. He’s the pimple that represents a face full of acne – the GOP, corporate greed, a nostalgic look at America before the income tax or fill-in “the blank”.

The problem has been stated in many ways much more succinctly as I am about to expound. The problem is deeper because many people in power in both political parties have ignored the needs of the people in favor of corporate donors to their campaigns.

Trump, the GOP and or lives within this perilous time represent a gestalt that is deeper and more insidious than we may have imagined. Some have chosen not to engage in Trump bashing and this is good because it is a sign of restraint based on rational thought. When we engage in Trump bashing daily we are engaging in three or more processes that are not immediately evident:

  1. We fall into the “Pit of Trump” – keeping negative attention on him is attention. He revels in any kind of attention. Negative attention can be useful in that it clearly defines:
  • A potential enemy or adversary
  • Puts people on the defensive
  • Raises the bar for irrational acts
  • Raises the bar for anger going to acting-out rage manifesting as violence
  • Justifies actions taken against protestors, suppressing voters’ rights, etc.
  • Possibly foments violence
  1. Trump represents the shadow in each of us. As he pokes at us especially those of us that bash him daily he fosters our shadow to come out in-reaction to his stuff. He becomes successful in dragging us down to his level where the bashing is all there is. In other words bashing is not followed by actions such as direct actions, organizing with others and so on. We get stuck in reacting, bashing – rinse, repeat and think of this as protest. Many of us, myself included don’t move out of the acting-out rage and name-calling -its overwhelming.

3. The patriarchy has ended energetically but socially and politically it persists. The  natural part of the process of ending of an epoch is upon us in the form represented by the caricature we have come to know as Trump. He represents a black hole of endless addictive fears of not being enough and allows us to air the “dirty laundry” of our shadow to the each other and the world. By remaining in the world of just bashing, signing a petition or two without a monetary contribution is an indulgence of shadow where the light never shines. It’s easy to fall into this place.

 

An example:

Slight changes in my job began to put me in a cycle of stress and decreasing sleep – 4 to 5 hours of sleep a night for over ten months. So I retired so I could recover and begin to work on my private practice. It took seven and a half months (until mid September 2017) to stabilize my sleep patterns and regain some health.

Then a good friend died of cancer at the end of September 2017. Two weeks later I had to evacuate due to the Northern California / Sonoma County fires. I was thrown back into shock, anxiety and disrupted sleep. Midway through the fires I got a phone message from the niece of a friend who moved back to Canada at the turn of the century who I hadn’t heard from. Because she didn’t answer her phone and then her phone was disconnected I wrote her a letter. We had been lovers and then friends for 29 years. When I got in-touch with Wendy’s niece she told me that Wendy had died of cancer in May 2017. She didn’t want anyone to know that she had had cancer. Her niece found out that she was dying by accident.

My house survived unscathed by the fires. I feel so grateful.

A man seeking revenge on another man in an adjacent town also shot my old boss. That was December 2017. He is recovering slowly in an ICU – slowly moving out of critical condition. Then another good friend in the beginning of February 2018 is now in hospice care due to a terminal lung disease. (April update – still under hospice care and improving somewhat)

I thought I had grieved, but I haven’t completed this process. Unconsciously I had been carrying around huge amounts of anger and dumping it on certain safe others inappropriately in part approved by Trump.

 

The Big Cycle

We are in the end times of the patriarch and the beginning times of the partnership. Cycles of five to ten thousand years do not end abruptly. There are no lines in space demarcating constellations from one another.

Think of the end and beginning times as analogous to a traffic light in slow motion denoting a longer time period.

The Green Light FLICKERS

  • The Green Light TURNS to YELLOW – CAUTION
  • The Yellow Light stays in – CAUTION: emotions build negativity is often displayed due to increasing impatience.
  • The Yellow Light FLICKERS
  • The Yellow Light turns to RED impatience increases more negativity
  • The Red Light impatience can be released
  • The Red Light turns to Green – a new age comes into being

 

These larger cycles of times have been described in the Vedic texts and are known as Yugas. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuga

Add the concept of “Soul Age” into the mix of these embroiled end times. There are a number of different resources on Soul Age from the Michael Teachings to Astrology (these can be googled).

  1. The baby to young souls are survival-based peoples with a fluid moral compass. They tend to be opportunistic and self-centered. They are very driven to success and look at everything in win-lose frameworks.
  1. Middle souls live in a social context. Emotional drama may be part of their experience. They are searching for inner meaning. They are attached to emotional intensity, prosperity. While being empathic they interpret the feelings of others as they interpret their own.
  1. Older Souls have a wider perspective. They have a profound respect and acceptance of others- emotionally, intellectually and spiritual. They are working on letting go of their attachments.

The Younger Souls seems to have less choice while middle souls more choice and old souls the most choice. Younger souls push choice to the limit. Middle souls exercise choice within a social context. Old souls choose love.

 

Back to the Yugas for a Moment:

The Satya Yuga is divided into an ascending and descending arc of almost 10,000 years, though I have other sources that show it to be longer (Toltec) it was and will be a Spiritual Age where humankind in all soul ages will be able to form complete thoughtforms (http://theyugas.com/about-the-yugas/overview/overview/ see diagram after scrolling to bottom of the page of the link). The Satya (ascending and descending) are at the top of the diagram and the Kali Yugas are at the bottom. Kali is the Goddess of destruction and the Kali Yugas are the material epoch where society is in disarray. We are the cusp of the ascending Dwapara Yuga or Energy Age. But since this is the Yellow Light period in our traffic light metaphor we need to exercise caution in this in-between place. Within the structures of the Kali Yuga there is a direct cause and effect action in the world. In the Dwapara Yuga or Energy Age there is thought first then energy into action. The Treta Yuga or Mental Age – thoughtforms come into being once again.

A thoughtform is an original thought cleansed of base desires and negative emotions that is able to form a pattern with the electromagnetic field of the body that can manifest in its entirety. As humans in our current state of development; we are not able to create original thought nor are we able to craft a thoughtform on a conscious level. Many unconscious thoughtforms keep us stuck in war and violence worldwide. (For a more detailed look at the subject of thoughtforms see – https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2016/10/02/an-intuitive-look-at-thoughtforms/ )

Humans at the current level of development are not responsible for their thoughtforms. Unconscious and uncompleted thoughtforms seek out those of a lower vibration and manifest. Meaning that if we think harmful negative thoughts towards another – that are recycled from the gestalt of our world that thought will manifest willy-nilly in a lower vibration younger or middle soul and get acted out. It will probably not manifest in the person we are angry or bear ill-will towards because their vibration may not be low enough or due to the randomness of unconscious recycled though will likely go towards groups that already experience violence or where there is a war.

Humans are not advanced enough to create conscious original thoughtforms and so must enact laws to attempt a similar safeguard. In the Satya Age religion is not needed, anti-discrimination laws and laws against violence are no longer necessary because love exists in the hearts and minds of the individuals.

Higher Consciousness and Love are one. Love is just as light is. Photons of light are everywhere and in every being. Higher Consciousness includes everything including the darkness. Higher Consciousness is Knowing and Knowing is Accepting. Love accepts and allows knowing to be all.

Our vibration is not high enough to create an original thought and craft it into a thoughtform. That does not mean that we cannot work on ourselves to utilize the love in us to melt our own negativity and practice good thoughts towards others while using love to dissolve negative thinking towards ourselves and others.

Returning to the issues with Trump and the anger he evokes in me, the triggered anger about the multiple losses (deaths and death processes) I’ve experienced over the last six months and other triggered wounds from childhood – I’ve begun work on these issues in a different way.

I find it’s easy for me to go to outrage and sadness over the injustices that Trump, his administration and the GOP are foisting upon us. And I don’t want to stay wound-up inside the injustices he is dishing out by voicing outrage about it without taking positive action. For me it’s important to respond to Trump (on Facebook, or another public venue) with outrage in writing unless someone else has already written it. Then call or email my representative in the house and my two senators. Or write to the California Attorney General; call the ACLU or other agency. Budget monthly contributions to worthy causes, or a singular contribution to a candidate in favor of a progressive agenda and/or resisting the Trump agenda. Send faxes in campaigns resisting ludicrous bills before congress.

Reacting repeatedly in anger at Trump allows me to descend to the lower vibration that Trump lives and feed his agenda, keeps me tense, restricted and in fight mode – the tiredness sets in and I don’t want to do the actions that I have pledged in the above paragraph.

So I set myself to:

  • Briefly express anger at Trump et al.
  • Make phone calls, send faxes and /or emails to MoC (Members of Congress)
  • Donate to causes and candidates
  • Relax and envision a present spreading out into the future that is one of peace and justice for all (peoples – all biological beings, Earth, all so-called non-biological beings).
  • Make the love I recognize within available to those that want and/or need it (through quantum entanglement).

 

How will you be in these difficult times? What will you do to make it better?

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A final note: Jeffery Wolf Green, astrologer has a school in Evolutionary Astrology. He speaks about the change agents based on the nodes of Uranus. (Uranus is the trickster planet or revolution and evolution). People born between 1936 and now have the nodes of Uranus in the same place as those alive ( in reincarnation) during the change from the matriarchy to the patriarchy. Therefore we are The Change Agents between epochs. ?

 

A Daily Plan

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  2. The Flush: a ten to fifteen minute rant on Trump, make it funny if possible
  3. Data: gather data on FLIPPING CONGRESS AND THE NATION, PLUS legislation to support or oppose.
  4. BREATHE
  5. ACTION PART ONE: look at legislation to oppose and / or support make 3 phone calls and send emails – 1 member of House of Reps and 2 Senators preferably in your state to start.
  6. BREATHE
  7. ACTION PART TWO: look at budget and who and how much to contribute to candidates (progressive and/or Dems guys*) opposed to GOP agenda and contribute
  8. BREATHE
  9. ACTION PART THREE: make report on social media

BREATHE!

* guys – womens, mens, androgynous-es, transgenders, gays, lesbians, genderqueers, asexuals and everybody else.

PS This is not about real soup you eat or slurp. This is about the soup we’re in. Hope that clears things up. Tuff if it doesn’t.

The Logical Extension of The Pro-Life Movement

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The Pro-Life Belief is that once conception occurs that the child as fetus is life cannot be terminated without committing an act of murder.

Women’s rights to control over their bodies do not apply in this case because the unborn child is still a child.

Under the sanctity and sacredness of life being so valued Pro-Life supporters need to be:

  • Opposed to Euthanasia
  • Opposed to Suicide
  • Opposed to the Death Penalty and Executions
  • Opposed to War
  • Opposed to Police use of deadly force
  • Opposed to Gun violence, manslaughter and murder
  • Opposed to Pollution
  • Opposed to Oil and Coal
  • Opposed to Prejudice and Bigotry
  • In-Favor of Tolerance and Compassion
  • In-Favor of Gun Control
  • In-Favor of the Vegan Lifestyle
  • In-Favor of Environmental Protections
  • In-Favor of Alternative Energy Production

 

Pro-Life needs to be equated in all that give life and opposed to all that takes life.

Opposition to euthanasia or ending a persons’ suffering through life termination is against life. Suicide and murder are anti-life. War, police use of deadly force, executions, and manslaughter, gun violence resulting in death is not Pro-Life. Pollution and Climate Change cause all manner of events that threaten and shorten life.

Vigorous support of environmental protection is a Pro-Life lifestyle choice – of life as sacred. Eating hard-boiled chicken eggs is anti-life, as well as eating meat. Veganism is the logical course of action for the Pro-Life Believer. Cannibalism of mammals is against life. Support of Gun Control can help limit gun violence and death. Using tolerance and compassion to include others is one way to support all life. Favoring Alternative Energy – as a renewable energy source is a way of promoting life in its larger context.

 

If Pro-Life as a movement is followed to its logic conclusions then unwanted babies could be adopted by families in need of children.

Winter Solstice 2017 – December 21 2017 11:28:59 am EST (8:28:59 am PST)

WinterSol17Part One (Part Two – The Summer Solstice 2018 – coming soon…)

Astrologically the winter solstice in the northern hemispheres is the Sun moving from Sagittarius to Capricorn. Included is the winter solstice chart for Washington DC (see chart above).

This winter solstice is the epitome of the patriarchy both the higher vibrations of the patriarchy and the lowest vibrations.

Capricorn is an earth sign represented by a Mountain Goat, tenuous and tough and very grounded practical and dependable. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn. Many people who know a smattering about astrology get freaked when a Saturn transit occurs, but Saturn transits are about focus hard work, discipline, constraint and accomplishment.

There is likely to be a delusional and deceptive force at play in injected new life into patriarchal goals.

This winter solstice is the epitome of the patriarchy both the higher vibrations of the patriarchy and the lowest vibrations. Since I set the chart for Washington DC the solstice sun is set in an exalted place for patriarchal accomplishment geared to make money internationally and poised for truth. Saturn and Sun are conjunct meaning their energies are blended. Work and authority will drive the economy to new heights. The danger here is probably obvious – the GOP and Trump’s greed are established in a race to make the most money domestically and internationally. (Venus in Sagittarius – Venus representing money, Sagittarius’s – international focus on money and truth.) Watch for accidental leaks of truth saying during this time. Mercury will be retrograde at the solstice bring intensity to thinking, communication both verbal and written. There are likely to be mistakes. If the GOP Tax scam is passed before Friday at 8:50 pm EST while Mercury is retrograde then the flaws will become evident and possible help dismantle the law.

Transformational energies of networks and institutions are likely to be amplified.

The placement of Neptune – spirituality and cosmic consciousness may seem to magically fuel the American economy as defined by the Stock Market and international corporate investment (Sun Saturn), but through secret agendas and murky plots – i.e. cover-ups. There is likely to be a delusional and deceptive force at play in injected new life into patriarchal goals.

Uranus – revolution-evolution, trickster, disruptor energy blended with fighting for justice and/or the oppressed (asteroid Pallas Athena) is part of this winter solstice

High trickster energy may enter to disrupt and /or augment the greed and money making rush. There will probably be an emotional conflict of secretive actions versus doing the right thing for all. Transformational energies of networks and institutions are likely to be amplified.

On an individual basis beginning a new project may succeed based on hard work – so what else is new – and as long as that hard work is aligned with a spiritual “right path” then there is a greater chance of success.

The movement for truth and the transition team to takes us peacefully from patriarchy to the forming partnership paradigm can also be seen in the winter solstice chart. (Uranus – revolution-evolution, trickster, disruptor energy blended with fighting for justice and/or the oppressed is part of this winter solstice).

A Code of Conduct for Men with Women, Children and Other Men

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Or Equality Hugging

Preface

Men are in a position of power in this culture because of their gender and that has been invisible for the most part to them. Women have known about the abuses of men’s power positions for as long as the patriarch is old. It’s becoming more visible now, thankfully and has a long way to go. Men have set many precedents to treat women and others as objects to be subjugated and this has remained acceptable and even hailed as “good” amongst men and some women.

Men who have been victims of sexual crimes such as rape, sexual assault, violations, incest and ritualized sexual abuse as children and feel to be victims / survivors are keenly aware of men’s power than those men acting as perpetrators.

A Possible Code of Conduct

When I was recovering from memories of having been raped as a child I began to create boundaries. Many people men and women make a tacit assumption – it is okay to hug. Amongst my friends and acquaintances I had to stop people from hugging me. I asked them to ask me if was okay to hug me.

Some men employ the bear-hug. This is a clamping down on the hugee to a point where the hugee is crushed by the hugger. Most hugs are unequal. There is a hugger and a hugee. The hugger gives a hug or is the aggressive hugger – even if gentle. The receiver of the hug does just that – receives without choice in the matter. Most hugs are not shared they are given and received. An aggressive hugger can “get-off” sexually on the hug without any seeming impropriety. The best a receiver of a hug may be able to do is the A-Frame Hug. They lean into the giver’s hug with their head and shoulders. Only the very top of their chests may be in contact with the other.

 

The Code of Conduct is Simple

Step One:

“May I give you a hug?”

“Yes.”     Or      “No.”

 

Step Two:

Or you could re-frame the experience:

“May I give you a hug?” Could be met with:

“No, but I will share a hug with you.”

“Same difference,” the hug perpetrator could say.

Response – Walk away

Or they could say: “What does that mean?”

If its said sarcastically its probably best to refuse all together and walk away.

 

In sharing a hug –

Each hugger gives and receives the hug equally.

Explanation and practice required.

 

Am I splitting hairs? Maybe, but I don’t think so…

 

The Backwards Life and What Else

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A client once asked me: “You must have to travel out there pretty far to see what you see, right?’

“No, I just include,” my answer was immediate.

“How does that work?”

I would answer my non-answer answer: “All life is One. That’s how it works.”

Language, Ego and time – most notably linear time – hold us prisoner to our separateness.

It doesn’t explain how it works from a linear time perspective.

Ego, language, time, science and self are predicated on “the me” and “the not-me”.

By being expanded self and time that includes our current lifetime and all past and future lifetimes “the me” and “the not-me” are included as one.

 

All Life is One.

 

We are bound by the invention of time. Language, Ego and time – most notably linear time – hold us prisoner to our separateness. It is the wordless language of the heart that frees us from linear time into boundless world of Love, Compassion, and Oneness.

In the beginning we were One.

Inclusivity (the urge to include) may be the bridge between ego / linear time and the infinite of Love and Light.

In the beginning we were One. As we grew and learned to speak and think – Oneness began to erode into “the me” and “the not-me”.  A child learns to say “NO!”

The rest of life seems to be a battle between defining “the me” and “the not-me” and feeling the Oneness. The “me and the “not-me” are illusions in a big drama to reconnect with the feeling of Oneness only to lose it so we reconnect with it repeatedly.

There are a number of philosophies of being. Two philosophies battle for authority.

 

  • A – One philosophy says we are strong hard-working people, believing in the strength and independence of the individual and freedom as paramount to all else. Opportunity abounds in a competitive culture of equal opportunity and is there for the taking if we are strong, powerful individuals, working to take it.

 

  • B – Another philosophy says we are strong hard-working people living interdependently in community. Freedom and justice are partners in a web of interconnectivity where we all prosper in the spirit of love, cooperation and compassion. In this environment everybody wins.

Philosophy A is based on the power of the individual righteousness and a worldview of winners and losers. This is a fear-based system where greed is necessary. Competition in this framework sets up an environment of ultimate collapse followed by re-building.

Philosophy B seems to be based Philosophy A but is not. B sees individuals in the context of community, which allows finite competitiveness in a playful setting to weave with others in cooperation for prosperity for all. It allows for supportive measures to given to others that haven’t benefited from competitive capitalism until community inclusiveness can fully function.

 

All Life is One

Every Being is Holy

Earth, Air, Fire, Water, Plants, Animals and Humans

We bless All Life

Resolving by Our Work

To Pay the Debt of Our Existence.

 

The Other Side of Gratefulness

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Part of this season of giving thanks is a reminder to feel humbled and grateful for the blessings in our lives. This could be gratefulness to friends, to food, to shelter, to a thankfulness that the roof stays over the head and doesn’t fall down.

I think we’re all aware of feeling irritated, frustrated, infuriated by the injustices…

The other side of gratefulness is to be thankful for all that is irritating and produces feelings of frustration and anger. Feelings of gratefulness to loss through “breaking-up”, loss from death of a family members, spouse, and/or best friend. You may think these are strange feelings and happenstances to feel grateful.

This kind of gratefulness brings my attention to basic underlying questions of my existence on the planet. While its great to feel grateful for what I think I have or how I relate I automatically exclude all that is unpleasant, irritating and infuriating. When I feel grateful to the pain in some bones of my left foot my attention is drawn there. I’m paying attention to something I might ordinarily forget and then I’m entering into a form of sleep.

Its easier to fight the injustices I perceive when I am grateful to the people that are eliciting unpleasant responses in me.

I think we’re all aware of feeling irritated, frustrated, infuriated by the injustices we perceive in the world around us, but when we are reminded to feel grateful we exclude those unpleasantries, because their unpleasant. When I include all those unpleasant feelings and I allow myself to feel grateful for these feelings something extraordinary abet subtle unfolds. My heart softens towards those situations and people that triggers the irritation in me. Intellectually I begin to understand their point of view even though I voraciously disagreed with them. My awareness expands and I include their beingness while continuing to disagree.

When I make room in my life for irritation and the like more people are included in the tissues of interconnectivity.

Its easier to fight the injustices I perceive when I am grateful to the people that are eliciting unpleasant responses in me. It reminds me that I am a flawed imperfect being and that other human citizens are as flawed as I am. This teaches me to “not take the issues in contention not so personally”. Of course I do – I do take the issues I interpret as injustices personally.

I tell myself to expand my gratefulness practice to include, that which is easy, and that which is tough to practice on a daily basis – and I forget to do this. I often remember that the other person isn’t perfect and I am trying to include them by releasing my irritation and softening my heart to include them in friendship. This works sometimes.

When I make room in my life for irritation and the like more people are included in the tissues of interconnectivity. Debating with these individuals makes more sense when I am grateful for the irritations that connect us because I am working on taking this less personally.