Making Space: a primer

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Making space is something we may do with our energy, with our thoughts and our imag-en-ation.

A woman with whom we shared loved and intimacy (circa 2002 to 05) experimented with making space while we were apart. I would create a space in the seat beside me in my pick-up truck and she would feel me next to her as I would feel her. Very simple, pure, sweet and easy-peezy.

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Making space its that easy. It takes love and compassion, energy from the second chakra and our mind’s ability to form images.

I often talk about it to my clients as inviting a person you may not even know yet into your cozy living room with a fire going in the fireplace for a chat. Put forward your intentions along with nonspecific love and compassion and see what happens.

Women and Transformation: Venus in Retrograde -October 6 through November 16, 2018

 

taurusTaurus – The Womb — figure 1

Intro –     I subscribe to the Vedic (Eastern Astrological) interpretation of retrograding planets: the energy of the planet becomes more intense because it’s closer to Earth during retrograde than direct motion.

Since when to we point to an outside force as controlling our destiny?

What retrograde motion really means? —- A planet in retrograde “appears” to go backwards in relationship to Earth and the background of planets, stars and outer space. This is an optical illusion. When a retrograde motion occurs the planet moves into a close orbit with Earth. For more in retrograde motion visit this NASA page: https://apod.nasa.gov/apod/ap031216.html

Dangers in one-sided Western Astrology Thinking —– Western Astrologers reports that the energy of retrograding planets are turned inward and thus help create a scapegoating mindset. This sets up a victim-think stance during the retrograde period. Blame it on “Mercury Retrograde” for example rather than rise to and overcome challenges.

In the matriarchy Taurus was the beginning of the zodiac

Doesn’t using astrology as a tool help us to overcome crises? Since when to we point to an outside force as controlling our destiny?

Venus and the world beyond the patriarchy —– Venus as Goddess, Venus as relationship, Venus as personal energy, Venus representing women and the feminine in the world are some of the representations of the mythos of Venus.

Venus represents many things, the Goddess, love and relationship, art, drama, beauty and personal power to manifest, and to name a few…

The power of Venus and receptivity for example comes from inclusiveness

Venus is sad to rule Taurus and Libra. In the matriarchy Taurus was the beginning of the zodiac, not Aries. Notice figure 1, the symbol for Taurus – not the Bull but the womb with the Fallopian tubes on top – symbol of manifestation and giving birth. The patriarchy usurped the feminine sign of Taurus for a masculine power of the Bull.

Astrologically Venus is usually relegated romantic love and relationships, art, beauty and all that is soft and receptive. It would seem that the fierce and unrelenting aspects of Venus as Goddess have been suppressed by the patriarchy much as Taurus, the womb of creation was usurped by a male symbol of the bull. Much of Venus in relationship to Taurus has been suppressed and perhaps denied. The power of Venus and receptivity for example comes from inclusiveness. Making and holding space while leading by example inside the space attracts others to the space or cause. This could be the democratization of the power of inclusivity behind a cause for example. This is not to exclude the role of Mars and the pointed energy of Mars or male energy in case and effect actions: “I see what I want and I take actions to get it.” Both kinds of actions are part of our world. However the Venus, by inclusion way of leading is downplayed and excluded thus denigrating receptive actions and women who could lead us to greatness by celebrating the power of inclusivity.

Ruling comes from the hierarchical structure of the patriarchy

Venus rules Taurus from a point of view of inclusivity would infer that a planet’s ruling a sign is less about ruling and more about co-creation. Ruling comes from the hierarchical structure of the patriarchy. When making and holding space for manifestation or creation both an attribute of Taurus as womb and Venus / Goddess containing the womb then there is a possibility of a paradigm shift. Partnership is the key. There is a partnership between the attributes of Venus and Taurus. When ruling is changed to partnering or co-creation the world of astrology and the world at large become bigger and hold the possibility of greater inclusion. Greater inclusion leads to prosperity for all.

the art of life

Venus is associated with art, beauty and form. In our search for meaning, happiness and success we become artists, creators of our immediate reality to some degree. The structures of language and civilization lead to art forms, stories that have a beginning middle and end, followed by a new beginning. These forms or stories are art and containers where we hold space for our lives to have meaning as in phrases such as “the body of work” etc. Venus as art when joined in a partnership with Taurus becomes a womb or cauldron for creation and this is the art of life.

In traditional Western Astrology the natural sign of the second house is Taurus that co-creates with Venus to exude values, personal energy and personal money. When the second house is looked at from a non-patriarchal or partnership perspective it becomes the space or womb of creation for our values, energy and money in the context of others.

Out of the mystical transformations of re-birth (Scorpio) comes the harmony of partnership

When working with receptivity on a practical level we may create a space that is imagine a space, a box, a living room a place that can hold people, ideas, purpose and objects that can be used to symbolize a goal. Remember to imagine putting yourself in the space. “See” someone next to you in the imaged space you’ve created that you can assist and they can assist you with your goal and then extrapolate others that are helping you and that you are help achieve your goal. And you can just wait and sit around waiting for this to all fall into place you must also do some yang / male/ Mars work of cause and effect – making things happen.

 

Venus Retrograde and The US Midterm Elections —– The force of Venus as Goddess in Scorpio especially during the upcoming retrograde period of October 6 through 31, 2018; then Venus continues retrograding in Libra from November 1 until November 17 well past the American elections. Scorpio represents both the mysteries of transformation from the murky depths of water to the Phoenix Bird consuming itself in fire to die in order to create something new. Out of the mystical transformations of re-birth (Scorpio) comes the harmony of partnership and balance (Libra) of both women voting (and men too supporting women and rebirth through voting) and winning office seats at all levels of government on November 6th as one example of this retrograde Venus time.

solidarity of sisterhood everywhere

As Venus retrogrades from the last of Scorpio (October 31st) into the last degree of Libra on November 1st until Venus goes direct on Friday November 16 2018 at 10:54 UT or 2:54 am PST. [Coincidentally Mercury goes retrograde on Friday November 16th in the early evening of that day.]

Venus after her intense ride through transformational Scorpio settles into a partnership of solidarity of sisterhood everywhere and in the context of the US midterm elections a wave of women voters to heal the patriarchy old guard by voting them out of office. On Election Day at sunrise in Washington DC it’s karmic payback time (Moon in Scorpio at 29 degrees – energy blended with retrograding Venus) as we’re poised between the past and future (south node – Aquarius –north node Leo square Moon and Venus) for a big upset in close races and a wave of women in a progressive blue wave (Uranus at zero degrees Taurus retrograde opposite Moon and Uranus and poised between past and future -. See chart below:

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Home Remedies for Optimal Rest

taking the pressure off of going to sleep by telling yourself your going for optimal rest.

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If you’re having trouble sleeping at night try taking the pressure off of going to sleep by telling yourself your going for optimal rest. Then if you fall asleep during your optimal rest period it’s a good bonus.

I’ve worked for over 20 years in the mental health field facilitating groups on relaxation meditation, and sleep hygiene.

caffeine can disrupt your sleep up to 11 hours after you drink it

Sleep is part of a daily cycle. Children and teenagers need more sleep sometimes up to 10 or 11 hours. Adults average about 8 hours up to the age of 55. Those over the age of 55 need less sleep – about 8 to 6 hours. These figures are not set in stone and there are always exceptions to every “rule”.

Since the time of the industrial revolution mainly the advent of electric light and more recently television, computers, smart phones and the internet the natural rhythms of our bodies have been disrupted due to light pollution.

Your bedroom should always be slightly on the cool side

Before Sleep – The Experts Report Our bodies adjust to light dark cycles so if you’re having trouble sleeping at night you may want to consider making changes to your daily routine:

Exercise – in the morning or afternoon. Avoid exercise in the evening or at night this can signal your body to become more awake or alert. Exercise is important for a good night’s sleep even if it is a short or long walk in the morning or afternoon.

Caffeine – The experts report that caffeine can affect your body and disrupt your sleep up to 11 hours after you drink it. This can affect your ability to fall asleep and your ability to stay asleep.

Television, Smartphone or computer use – excites the brain. Sleep experts recommend to stop using these devices at least 2 hours before retiring

Snacking – Sleep experts recommend that you wait 3 hours after eating to go to sleep for a better night’s sleep.

Technique – If you do sleep poorly and assuming your morning is sunny you can re-set your body clock by sitting in the sun from 40 to 60 minutes in the morning.

Sleeping Timing – experts suggest going to sleep at the same time each night. I have observed that this has to do with body memory. Disrupting body memory where we experience a burst of energy hurtling passed our ordinary bedtimes usually comes from caffeine or a late night snack of sugary foods or refined carbohydrates.

 No Alcohol Before Bedtime – I almost did not include this because many people already know that while alcohol can put you to sleep it can often wake you up several times during the night. A drink or a glass of wine with an early dinner is okay.

Minimize Electrical Gadgets in your Bedroom – a lamp is good with an incandescent bulb is best for reading and a feeling of warmth, an alarm clock (without excessive lighting) if you need one (not an alarm on your electronic device). Watching television in-bed, surfing the net from your smartphone or tablet is bad for your sleep hygiene. Best to turn off your cell phone or tablet if you are keeping them in your bedroom.

Light and TemperatureYour bedroom should be as dark as possible, no light at all. But if you startle waking-up in a dark room, a light in a different room or a very dim nightlight is okay. If you have equipment such as a CPAP machine for your sleep prescribed then of course that’s okay. Your bedroom should always be slightly on the cool side, in summer and winter. Our body temperatures drop at night and by cuddling with ourselves under the covers we warm to an optimal sleeping temperature.

 

muse on your day, begin the letting go process

 

One to Three Hours Before Sleep  – These are nightly rituals, that when I use them assist me in getting a better night’s sleep. Admittedly I don’t use them as much as I could.

The Wind-DownBegin with a hot beverage – an herbal tea, or warm milk, or a non-alcohol hot-toddy-for sleep:https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2016/12/02/a-non-alcoholic-hot-toddy-for-sleep/

As you begin to enjoy your beverage muse on your day, begin the letting go process.

Next take care of brushing your teeth and all those to-do things before laying down to engage in optimal rest.

If you get in bed before the 40-minute period before closing your eyes, plan on reading, listening to music or dong some breath work, but ideally this should occur after taking medications and/or supplements.

LET GO AND BREATHE

Thirty (30) to forty (40) minutes before lying down take any nighttime medications or supplements

 

Here are the supplements I take at night for their sedating effects:

GABA  – It’s an neurotransmitter that blocks impulses between nerve cells in the brain. Its uses include but are not limited to: improved sleep, lowering anxiety, help with chronic pain and lowering blood pressure;

Calcium – most calcium is derived from a dairy product which may have a sedating effect

Sometimes I take:

Aconitum Napellus 30c – four to five pellets under the tongue – It’s for anxiety but it can aide in falling to sleep.

 

Immediate Preparations for Optimal Rest

These techniques can be used in preparations can be used just prior to closing your eyes or if sleep doesn’t come.

The Body Clench – this is a systematic clench of muscle groups and their release in your body. Begin by scrunching up your feet and clenching your toes. Don’t let go. Next tightening your calf and thigh muscles. Next tighten your butt muscles, then you chest and abdomen. Next make fists tight the muscles in your forearms and biceps, stretch your neck by moving your head towards your chest and scrunch up the muscles in your face.

Don’t beat yourself up because your suppose to be sleeping

Then LET GO AND BREATHE.

The idea is to make your body tighter so you can release tense muscles and allow yourself to feel your body in a more relaxed state.

 

Sleep experts suggest you sleep on your side. Sleeping on your abdomen (belly) inhibits your breath so not good for optimal rest

 

Close your Eyes – (30 to 40 minutes after taking your medications and/or supplements)When you close your eyes there may be an automatic response for you to think about everything your worried about, or to criticize yourself in someway. Worry may manifest as thinking about something repeatedly (obsessing) – trying to figure it out. Or maybe you’re trying to solve a problem or review something that happened that day.

Let yourself do this for a few minutes. Make it okay. Don’t beat yourself up because your suppose to be sleeping even it goes on you five to ten minutes or so. Also you might want to engage in some soothing self-talk such as: “I’m a gentle person”, I’m applying compassion towards others and myself” “I like _____ about myself” or think of a peace scene in nature – a sunset over a lake or behind a mountain, floating or flying over fields, seeing waves at the beach.

It’s okay… it’s okay… I’m safe. I can let go.

Then tell yourself that it time to dive deeper into optimum rest.

Begin this next process by scanning your body with your mind for any areas of your body where your holding tension and imagine breathing them out (with your out breath). Let go.

Next, focus on your breath. Usually, what happens when we begin to focus on our breath is that we take control. That’s okay. Breathing in this way soon becomes like work. When you start to realize that its work then begin to watch your breath as it moves in and out of your body. You’re just matching your thoughts with what’s happening in your body automatically, that can be a lot easier.

I may just practice watching my breath achieving optimal rest

Your mind may wander back to your negative or problem solving thoughts without you realizing it. Let them go and move back to your witness mind watching your breath. The rhythm of your breath is similar to waves coming to shore.

Focus on your breath in this way for at least 20 to 40 minutes. Usually what happens for me is I fall asleep, but I only know this has happened when I awaken the next morning. I realize I have released and fallen asleep.

Sometimes it doesn’t happen and I catch myself on the edge of letting go and pull myself back into a wakeful and circular thought process – knee-jerk response. Here I may do some soothing self-talk (silently saying to myself):

“It’s okay… it’s okay… I’m safe. I can let go. I can be a deep diver. I can let go. I am letting go, letting go…”

If after 20 minutes to an hour I may get up and go to the bathroom, drink a glass of water. Then go back to bed. If the cycle of wakefulness continues I may just practice watching my breath achieving optimal rest.

 

Being on Time

 

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It’s rare to find people who arrive at their destination on time.

“I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.”

There are at least two definitions of being on time:

  • Arriving the minute that you intended to be there – at work, at a meeting etc.
  • Arriving five minutes early so you can “shake off” the trip and prepare for being fully present for your meeting.

 

The Illusion of Multi-Tasking

Part of the problem of being on time has been an illusory belief held by our egos that we are Masters of all situations. In the post-modern era this has been compounded by additional illusory beliefs that multi-tasking is the way to complete many tasks simultaneously. The accompanying emotion to increased multi-tasking is a frenetic frantic obsessiveness. This may be comparable to the White Rabbit in Carroll’s “Alice in Wonderland” as in “I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.”

Being on time is about being present.

We try to take the impossible and make it possible in a finite time frame. This becomes a race to finish first under impossible conditions of finite time constraints. The multi-tasking work ethic spills into everything we do. Part of the multi-tasking illusion spills into texting or hands-free texting while driving, lengthy conversations (hands free) while driving. Its no wonder we are late for many meetings.

 

Being On-Time is more than Punctuality

Being on time is about being present. When we are chronically late we miss a very important opportunity to practice being present. Our consciousness gets increasingly scattered through our attempts to do more than one thing at a time (unless you have an AADD brain). Even with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (AADD the aim for being present is to bring chronic distractability to fruition.) The ego is a wandering lazy beast easily distracted – taken away through whim to different places. The Internet and in particular social media sites feed on an AADD model of attention.

notice your breath

The work of being present is within the purview of all of the esoteric and/or spiritual wings of all religions. It is work that never ceases because as long as our egos hold sway over us (ego is invoked as soon as we say or think “I”) it leads us away from being present into fractured realities.

 

A Being Practice

Each discipline has its own practices for working on being present. The one I suggest below may be right for you or not. It may work from time to time or not.

 

If you are standing (or sitting) notice your breath moving in and out of your body. What we ordinarily do is control our breath (an ego thing) and that is okay. Eventually we may find that it’s easier to “watch” or “notice” our breath than it is to try and control it. 

Ground. Imagine/visualize an energy or grounding cord emanating from the root chakra just in front of the end of the spine going down through all layers of Earth, through magnetic core; passing through molten core and anchoring to your spot in crystalline core of Earth. There is an iron ore spherical crystal that spins in the molten core. 

Allow yourself to feel your connection to Earth – to your home – the planet.  

Continue to notice your breath.  

Feel the physical sensations in your body. Notice what your emotions are without trying to change or judge them. Notice any thoughts, especially the thoughts that take you away from the now – what is happening now. Use your will to bring your thoughts to this present moment.

 

A Report about Being On-Time

I was with most of my classmates awaiting the first class about history when the instructor asked if everyone was there. People were arriving as he spoke. He had been speaking about the dinosaurs, our use of oil/gasoline eating the future by abusing (using the resources) of the past every time we drove down the road in our automobiles.

He asked us – as a group how we had shirked our responsibility toward our classmates. He admonished those that were late as leaking energy from the room and doing a disservice to the ones here on-time.

He cancelled the course of history all together because we had not learned our responsibility of being on time – arriving before the appointed time and practicing being present.