Being on Time

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It’s rare to find people who arrive at their destination on time.

“I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.”

There are at least two definitions of being on time:

  • Arriving the minute that you intended to be there – at work, at a meeting etc.
  • Arriving five minutes early so you can “shake off” the trip and prepare for being fully present for your meeting.

 

The Illusion of Multi-Tasking

Part of the problem of being on time has been an illusory belief held by our egos that we are Masters of all situations. In the post-modern era this has been compounded by additional illusory beliefs that multi-tasking is the way to complete many tasks simultaneously. The accompanying emotion to increased multi-tasking is a frenetic frantic obsessiveness. This may be comparable to the White Rabbit in Carroll’s “Alice in Wonderland” as in “I’m late, I’m late for a very important date.”

Being on time is about being present.

We try to take the impossible and make it possible in a finite time frame. This becomes a race to finish first under impossible conditions of finite time constraints. The multi-tasking work ethic spills into everything we do. Part of the multi-tasking illusion spills into texting or hands-free texting while driving, lengthy conversations (hands free) while driving. Its no wonder we are late for many meetings.

 

Being On-Time is more than Punctuality

Being on time is about being present. When we are chronically late we miss a very important opportunity to practice being present. Our consciousness gets increasingly scattered through our attempts to do more than one thing at a time (unless you have an AADD brain). Even with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder (AADD the aim for being present is to bring chronic distractability to fruition.) The ego is a wandering lazy beast easily distracted – taken away through whim to different places. The Internet and in particular social media sites feed on an AADD model of attention.

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The work of being present is within the purview of all of the esoteric and/or spiritual wings of all religions. It is work that never ceases because as long as our egos hold sway over us (ego is invoked as soon as we say or think “I”) it leads us away from being present into fractured realities.

 

A Being Practice

Each discipline has its own practices for working on being present. The one I suggest below may be right for you or not. It may work from time to time or not.

 

If you are standing (or sitting) notice your breath moving in and out of your body. What we ordinarily do is control our breath (an ego thing) and that is okay. Eventually we may find that it’s easier to “watch” or “notice” our breath than it is to try and control it. 

Ground. Imagine/visualize an energy or grounding cord emanating from the root chakra just in front of the end of the spine going down through all layers of Earth, through magnetic core; passing through molten core and anchoring to your spot in crystalline core of Earth. There is an iron ore spherical crystal that spins in the molten core. 

Allow yourself to feel your connection to Earth – to your home – the planet.  

Continue to notice your breath.  

Feel the physical sensations in your body. Notice what your emotions are without trying to change or judge them. Notice any thoughts, especially the thoughts that take you away from the now – what is happening now. Use your will to bring your thoughts to this present moment.

 

A Report about Being On-Time

I was with most of my classmates awaiting the first class about history when the instructor asked if everyone was there. People were arriving as he spoke. He had been speaking about the dinosaurs, our use of oil/gasoline eating the future by abusing (using the resources) of the past every time we drove down the road in our automobiles.

He asked us – as a group how we had shirked our responsibility toward our classmates. He admonished those that were late as leaking energy from the room and doing a disservice to the ones here on-time.

He cancelled the course of history all together because we had not learned our responsibility of being on time – arriving before the appointed time and practicing being present.

For more about my work: Ontario’s The Kai – website

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Time and the Processes of Time through the Enneagram

 

EnnegramTimeAtWork“The distinction between past, present, and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.”

Einstein

 

To Start

An ordinary human perspective cannot separate time from space. Time cannot exist without space and space cannot exist without time. In discussing time in this piece assume that time is always bound by space unless stated otherwise.

Humans by definition are corporeal and are subject to entropy’s jaws in a sea of time. The reverse may also hold truth: Consciousness expresses itself through individual human experiences or lives. Human life in our current epoch is finite. When humans are born they grow, their biology is plastic, then growth slows, entropy promotes decay and human bodies die and consciousness moves on. However the human power of identification (similar to manifestation) is a powerful force where life is bonded with the physical. When the bond is broken biological life ceases.

Our search for meaning occurs within the boundaries of time that can be both finite and infinite. Discussing the intricacies and types of time is a good backdrop to the search for discovery of meaning of the human species and the consciousness that is associated with it.

The following discourse is meant as an introduction to Time as Process so topics that are introduced may not necessarily be explored in depth.

 

Using the Enneagram as a process tool to map Time

Enneagram or Nine-Picture represents an on-going process of completion. In number theory nine represents completion. Ten is manifestation and belongs to a new cycle of numbers. The numbers of 1 – 9 are natural numbers. Nine is the highest one digit number in a system of numbers using base 10.

The enneagram examines the system of process that includes the law of three – a basic principle of action in this universe. The law of three contains these principles:

  • Affirming – active with a positive charge
  • Denying – receptive with a negative charge
  • Reconciling – neutral with no charge

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Figure 1

The law of three is the principle of every action and transformative urge in our universe throughout the arc of time.

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Figure 2

  1. Biological Time                                                                        5. Relative Time
  2. Linear Time                                                                              6. Simultaneous Time
  3. Being Time                                                                                7. Alternate Reality Time
  4. Perceptual Time                                                                       8. Transcending Time

9. Time At Work

 

Linear Progressions

ONE: Biological Time

Animals and plants are biological beings. A single cell reproduces through mitosis – divides and makes a copy of itself – in an asexual manner. This is movement through space-time.

Biological beings live in the context of an environment created by Earth that we now refer to as the ecosphere. This context is related to day and night cycles as governed by the rotation of Earth on her axis, the tilt of Earth’s axis that creates the angle of the Sun’ light striking Earth creating seasons and the orbit of the Earth around the Sun creating the yearly cycle. We are biological beings in an intricate relationship of Earth with itself, the Sun and other planets in the solar system (and beyond).

All biological beings are living in finite time: they are born, they grow, they reproduce, they begin to decay and then they die – in terms of their physical bodies. As living beings they move through space-time and as such an awareness of time is programmed into their cells, biological systems (neurons, cardiovascular, endocrine, genetics and so on).

Animals including the human animal have biological systems that interact with the environment in space-time. We may consider the circadian and diurnal rhythms of animals and plants primitive. In fact they are not primitive but the foundation for awareness of time and survival of an individual or a species.

Humans are animals separated from a greater awareness of biological time due to the technologies of civilization: language, days, seasons, agriculture, machinery, computers, neural nets and so on. As humans we dwell inside homes saturated with light pollution for example. We don’t fall asleep with the dark and rise to the light, instead we often use alarm clocks to awaken, stay awake with the assistance of electric light, television, computers, electronics – all light pollution that enables us to break from our biological time sense.

We have forgotten that we are animals and have lost our connection to biological time in part through mediated experiences. Mediation is the state in the middle, that which acts through an intervening agency or exhibiting indirect causation, connection, or relation. The buffers are mediators between us and nature. Language is a buffer or media that separates us from direct experience because words are media descriptions of reality. They are symbols of reality and may stand in the way of our direct experience of reality. Civilization and its increasing complexity serve to keep us separate from biological time.

 

TWO: Linear Time 

Linear time was invented by humans through the auspices of language, aural and written as well as increasingly complexities of civilization. Linear time belongs to a mediated experience primarily connected to the structures of language. Human languages are based on syntax that provides a subject, an action, a starting point and a destination. In other words sentences have a beginning, middle and end. The structure of language is analogous to the structure of linear time.

Time as we know it has a beginning, middle and end, connected to biological time loosely through the mediated experiences of language and via extrapolation civilization’s codes of behavior and order. Its highly unlikely that linear time would have developed in the way that it did without the platform of biological time supporting the rhythms found in our physical bodies.

Linear time is connected to Earth’s spin on its axis as well as its orbit around our Yellow Dwarf Star that we refer to as the Sun and this is part of our biology and these cycles have been measured and quantified.

Our separation from our natural selves (in biology) through the mediated experiences of language and linear time has erased our individual and collective experiences of anything beyond linear time. Linear thinking and linear time have become invisible and as such constitute the only reality that we know and accept often without question.

Time has been measured with increasing accuracy as the sophistication of civilization has increased. Pope Gregory convened a commission in the year 1582 AD to fix the calendar due to Easter moving forward in time. Leap year was created to correct the time discrepancies in the calendar: every four years one extra day was added to February – mainly the 29th of the month. Something like 3 non-weeks were observed before the new (Gregorian) calendar was re-booted. When trains began connecting communities across Europe each town had a different time, so trains weren’t on-schedule due to different times in each town. This was corrected by the creation of time zones and a universal time based on the time in Greenwich England that came to be known as Greenwich Mean Time. Now Atomic clocks are the most accurate clocks in their measure of seconds, minutes and hours.

Linear time is an agreed-upon fantasy.

 

THREE: Being or Eternal Time 

This is part of the triad and exists as an intermittent part of linear time and independently from the flow of time from biological to linear to perceptual. Being or Eternal time is rarely experienced because it exists outside language and outside biological time as perceived through linear time.

Being / Eternal Time lightly touches linear time by nullifying it abet briefly and enabling ego a wider perspective.

When Being or Eternal Time is discussed using aural or written language it loses it’s meaning because it exists outside linear time. As such there is an ineffable quality to it that transcends ego. Inevitably ego claims the experience and it is reduced in its scope to the mundane.

In a traditional relationship of master to student or apprentice Being / Eternal time may be explored or discussed only to confirm the authenticity of the experience and provide ground for future experiences. This must be engaged in with care and precision due to the delicacy of the experience and only when the student is ready.

I have experienced Being/Eternal time three times from a spontaneous arising. Other encounters with Being / Eternal time has been by cultivating a space through a variety of practices without expecting any particular results.

For more:

https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2017/11/23/being-the-wider-perspective-in-troubled-times/

https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2015/11/24/being-and-doing/

https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2016/07/01/ego-life-versus-eternal-life/

FOUR: Perceptual Time

 

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Perceptual time is our individual subjective experiences of time that lies between biological and linear time. In the television series Star Trek: The Next Generation, Commander Riker tells Data that humans don’t have “internal chronometers” and that he should turn his off if he wants to perceive time like a human being.

The subjective nature of perceived time allows linear time to be perceived as shortened or lengthened depending on the participant. Perceptual time may be closer to our experience of biological time but because of the invisible technologies of language, ego and individual perceptual facilities we may never know definitively.

Attention and the focus of attention come into play in perceiving time. For example an hour and a half trip from Sonoma to downtown San Francisco in moderate to heavy traffic took only 60 minutes due to the focus of my attention. Normally the trip is 1 hour and 40 minutes in moderate to light traffic. I had a fever of 101 at the time and I was driving a friend/colleague to a conference. My focus was 100% on the trip, not driving too fast and being efficient. I focused on the result, our safety and arriving as soon as possible. I never drove over the speed limit.

 

Points 1 through 4 

Biological

Linear

Being

Perceptual

Points 1, 2, 3 and 4 belong both to a linear progression and an eternal process. Points 1, 2 and 4 belong to the finite world of a cause and effect progression. As you can see (figure 2 and figure 3) there is a gap between points 4 and 5. The gap is an opening for a shock to occur, something that occurs from outside – a transformation that allows the process to go from point 4 to 5.

For example in the quanta world (of quantum physics) nine dimensions are often discussed – these 9 dimensions could support this dimension by providing the energy to intersect the enneagram between points 4 and 5 to provide the jump between the mundane and the quanta world.

In the piece Enneagram as Process – Primer https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2018/05/03/enneagram-as-process-a-primer/

The points 4 – Preparation of meats and vegetables – FOR 5 – Cooking. The points between 4 and 5 or the process of cooking provides a transformation that shocks the process into the second part of the octave 5 – 6 – 7 – 8

 

FIVE: Relative Time 

Einstein’s Theory of Special Relativity is the feature of point 5 with some expanded ideas:

  • The speed of light is a constant (meaning that it never changes)
  • People traveling at or close to the speed of light observing others on a planet the planetary persons would be moving slower. (This is only true for objects traveling close to or at the speed of light.)
  • Time and Space cannot be separated.
  • Objects approaching the speed of light become heavier – increase in mass while decreasing in lenght.
  • Mass can be transformed into energy and energy can be transformed into mass resulting in the law of “conservation of energy” or more correctly stated as the conservation of mass-energy. The conservation of energy is a System based theory where two systems are connected. E = MC2. E is energy. M is mass, C is the speed of light or velocity.

 

Expanded Ideas:

Light is Consciousness and Love (knowable as a person of knowledge “knows”.)

Light transcends time

Light, Consciousness and Love hold time

Light and Consciousness hold multiple time-space modalities

 

These expanded ideas can only be known in a way of learning that as seekers touch mastery they “know” from a pace of Being.

 

SIX: Simultaneous Time

Points 1 through 5

  1. Biological
  2. Linear
  3. Being
  4. Perceptual
  5. Relative

Each of the modalities of time listed above can occur in an experience of simultaneous time. In experiencing simultaneous time – travel through time via both consciousness and linear travel become possible.

The key in the other five points of time is awareness. From our finite biological perspective it’s impossible to hold all of the five points of time in our awareness simultaneously. Humans think associatively, meaning that one idea is associated with another. Multitasking is a myth (see https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/psychology-and-neuroscience-blow-up-the-myth-of-effective-multitasking.html and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creativity-without-borders/201405/the-myth-multitasking ). Multi-tasking is shifting attention from one task to another rapidly often with a loss of efficiency and a creating an illusion that many tasks can be done at once with superb attention.

An example of associative thought is – taking a walking or an automobile trip. One cannot think of the whole trip all at once. Looking at a map is not looking at the trip itself it is a mediated representation of a trip. 1. You might get in your car, back out of your driveway or pull out onto your street. 2. Drive to the end of the street by the traffic light and go left after stopping or waiting for the green light. 3. Driving down the next street towards the entrance to the interstate or freeway. One cannot hold all three steps in your head or attention at once, but you can follow each step one after the other and even access them from your memory.

There are five and possibly many more perspectives on time especially when the quanta worlds are applied. Linear is built on biological; perceptual time happens when we pay attention. Being and Relative Time occur mostly outside linear time by chance or by cultivation.

Humans can sometimes experience small moments of simultaneous time in a continuum of associated thinking supported by memory. Memory is the key to simultaneous time. Memory is an interactive process that occurs between perceptual facilities such as sight, sound, olfactory, gustatory, balance, etc. and the combinations of these perceptions to create memories of the human experience. Individual memories interact with other individual memories to create a neural net of shared and /or consensual memories.

Simultaneous time makes space for theories of time travel to be constructed. Briefly memory is primed for quantum entanglement, which is the bedrock from whence time “travel” becomes possible. This will be discusses in a future article.

 

SEVEN: Alternate Reality Time

Dissociative Identity Disorder at its most extreme that include blackouts and alternate personalities that have no awareness of other personalities is the first link or clue to alternate realities in time.

Often when the notion of alternative realities is presented we go straight to a Hollywood explanation, which is mostly based in fantasy. It creates a reality peopled with people like us or with monsters (TV shows: Fringe, Timeless, Travellers, & Stranger Things). The alternate realities in the quanta world are potential realities that may exist for short periods of time as a way to support the current corporeal space-time.

We currently create temporary quanta alternate realities all the time (in the now) in a limited bandwidth of choice. These alternate realities do not have enough energy to involve others because the force of each choice is very limited. Extreme trauma in certain individuals creates dissociative identity disorder or multi-personalities and this is an example of alternative realities that exist for an individual.

Time lines can be altered if the energy is great enough. Only one corporeal or coarse physical reality can exist, so if enough energy is applied one reality can be destroyed and another created. Atomic bombs are the only force – other than folding space where time-lines for entire civilizations can be altered.

An alternative reality could exist parallel to this one if there were enough people able to make free choices or decisions in harmony with one another. The choices that most humans have are extremely limited because they are NOT free choices. We are under the illusion that we make free choices all the time and this has to do with our political systems at work etc.

Choices we assume are free are based on the programming we receive as children from our parents. Whether we accept or reject what our parents have taught us we are not free. If we rebel or are opposition to a parental stance we are still caught by the rubric of our parents’ teaching because we are in reaction to it. Most of our choices are based on unconscious role modeling from our parents and this is the most pernicious.

Analyzing or using talk-therapy to explore our choices while helpful does not address the problem of choice so it’s swallowed up by slavery to habitual actions. The constant pull of the ego creates an illusion of control and the illusion of free will. Ego does not provide a permanent center in an individual. To find and cultivate the Master within takes a commitment that most are unwilling or unable to take.

We have free will under the illusion of Ego that keeps us enslaved to habits and allows for temporary alternate realities to form and fall away.

If we were to have free will and make an act based on nothing then we could create something real that could include a force powerful enough to launch an alternate reality for a brief period in time in which consciousness could dwell for the purpose of creating greater consciousness and possibly more.

 

EIGHT: Transcendent Time

Transcendent time is related to Being or Eternal Time because it allows us to have a point of reference that includes ego and higher aspects of the self.

Transcending time is made through the cultivation of spaces within our ego-existence where ego can be relinquished. This takes work along the area of the four sources [1].

  • Learning – comes from books, which are often secondary sources of knowledge. Learning also originates from a traditional process of the student – teacher relationship. Under the way of “knowing” this kind of learning being comes into play. Certain truths are recognized and other information is discarded. However some information can be put aside for later re-examination.
  • Struggle – Most struggle is considered odious. We want life to be easy without struggle. However most of our struggles are not seen as struggles, but as experiences that we easily pass through. A person excited to bound out of bed in the morning to greet the day is a struggle that is easily overcome and is not considered a struggle. Struggle reduced to its most common elements is a battle between “Yes” and “No”. Effective struggle can create energy.

Help and Sacrifice/Surrender belong to Spirit. When we open to it – the interface between the divine and mundane happens outside causal physics – in the quanta world.

  • Help – Asking for assistance /help from somebody is fairly straight forward When many people ask for help from God, for example, they have reduced their personas to those of children. Asking for help from the divine or that which is greater than oneself is an art. Asking to win the lottery or a new car falls into the category of child-parent asking. It makes for expectation without having to do anything in return. Expectation fills the space preventing help from entering or being recognized as help. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> The art of asking for help is making a request, making a space to let the wish appear and then releasing the request. Gifting from the divine is not usually answered in the spoken word. It may come in the form of clues or prompts for action. Or it could come all at once.

 

  • Sacrifice / Surrender – Modern peoples have an abhorrence to the word “sacrifice” because they see it as coming from lack or self flagellation. Surrender is a less offense word, but to sacrifice the ego is a swift action, so both may be used. Sacrificing ego and self-will allows the divine aspect ourselves to enter and act through us. The Observer watches as this happens. We don’t disappear. The divine / Higher Aspect Of the Self those elusive and difficult to define is a robust force that holds ego. Ego comes in rapidly as soon as we claim the experience thinking of saying “I” did this or felt that. It’s impossible to adequately describe the sacrifice and / or surrender of the will because this is a step into transcendent time.

 

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Figure 4

 

An examination of the parallel lines assist in understanding the causal events in linear-time:

 

  1. 8-1 Eight is Transcendent Time which cannot exist without a biological platform as is in number One. These points form the structural center for completion to manifest. It is part of the inner structure and is not causally visible as are points 1, 2, [3] and 4…
  2. 7-2 Seven are Alternate Realities which cannot exist without the platform of Linear Time / number Two. Perception of alternate realities cannot be discerned without the invention of linear time, due to the intellectual parsing needed to see individual and collective alternate reality worlds.
  3. 5-4 Five is the Theory of Relativity which is an expansion of Perception – number Four and is the only two points that have a cohesive internal parallel structure and a causal one that requires a shock for transformation to occur.

 

NINE: Time At Work

Number Nine contains elements of all the other 8 points. Its impossible to think of all the points simultaneously due to our associative thought process (associating one thought with another in binary pairs).

Time at Work represents all the preceding 8 points in one place. Approached from the law of three we add three and the result is six plus 3 more is 9. If all human thinking is associative based on a binary system of (+) and (-) or affirming and denying; force and reception, the third force is missing, the force that is (0) or neutral. If associative /binary thought can be balanced a calmed emotional or neutral state may be the zero point. By providing a neutral point the dialectic or battle between (+) or (-) / between “yes” and “no” can be released through the neutral or reconciling “force”. The power between the binary associative thought of (+) and (-) (or “yes” and “no”) is released in a transformation of energy through the neutral or reconciling energy. The triad of energy is reproduced two more times to make the enneagram or completion process.

The triad is reflected in our human structure in our three brains:

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Nine then becomes the reconciling or neutral force in the triad of 3 and 6.

Looking at Time at Work within the enneagram structure from the perspective of the octave – the musical scale of:

  1. Do – Dominus – Lord/Absolute
  2. Re – Regina Coli – Queen of the Heavens/Moon
  3. Mi – Micro Cosmos – Small Universe/Solar System
  4. Fa – Fatima – Mother – Fate/Planets
  5. Sol – Solar – Sun/Demiurge
  6. La – Lactea – Milk/Milky Way Galaxy
  7. Si – Sider – Stars/All Galaxies
  8. Do – Dominus – Lord/Absolute

 

  1. Om – the one tone that is the completion process that includes the other eight.

 

 

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The one “place” we may realize time at work fully is a place where space and time do not exist in that “realm” after death where consciousness and love abound. Time at Work may be glimpsed here in the realm of corporeal life when we contact the divine mysteries for brief moments when ego falls away and we can touch the illusion of time.

 

NOTES

[1] The Four Sources are paraphrased from J. G. Bennett’s book: Transformation by J.G. Bennett

[2] for a comprehensive study of the Enneagram see: The Intelligent Enneagram by A.G.E. Blake

Talking to Plants about the Weather

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I’m not talking about talking to plants about tomorrow’s weather or a week or a month from now. I mainly have talked with plants about the winter.

In the 1980s my lover had given me a pot of Chinese Chives (chives that have a hint of garlic taste in them). In 1990 I moved to a place on Trinity Road where I lived for ten years. The seeds from the potted Chinese Chives spread to the ground outside my dining room window and created a lawn there.

I began receiving impressions from them about the upcoming winter. They “told” me whether it would be a warm wet winter or a cold dry (drought based) winter. I believe that part of the reason we don’t hear plants or trees besides the obvious spoken and written language differences is we are in our heads moving too fast to notice what they are saying.

Chinese Chives are bulbs and can survive very cold – freezing temperatures and rebound in the spring (unfortunately they didn’t survive the move from the mountains to the valley). The same is true of the Canna Flower – also a bulb. When I saw them in early spring (2018) the leaves were low and one shoot went up high and a flower bloomed.

I asked about the coming winter and received impressions:

Winter of 2018 – 2019, in Sonoma, California (Northern California)

Rains can come as early as October or November, get heavy in December, January, February and March

This year the impression from my fiend the Canna: a dry cold winter through December, Rains beginning in January.; mid to late January through February moderate to heavy rains punctuated by very cold days between fronts. In March coastal fog and showers with possible heavy rains for a few days at the end of the month. In April – cool and clear.

The Principle of Creating a new kind of Prayer

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Language and time creates an artificial separation between the ever present now and a future. There is no future. It is there in our minds as something we believe to be true based on language and the trick of ego.

When we pray or ask the universe for something to happen from the future we reinforce the illusion of separateness. This keeps us from having or achieving that what we wish to create. We are separated from having or achieving due to the action of wish in relationship to time. The past and future are illusions that we invented through language to manage the world. Time is now. Even money is the currency of this illusion.

Let’s say there has been a drought or fires and rain is needed.

Go to a place in your neighborhood in nature where you feel a connection or a feeling of awe and power. Take off your shoes and socks if you wish. Stand on earth – grass or soil, twigs or leaves and feel the water beneath your feet, the mud or soaked socks and shoes (if you didn’t take them off). Smell the scents of earth after a long rich rain. Feel earth’s relief and looseness with the richness of plentiful water. Feel the wet on your skin, hair and clothing from the rains. See the drought or fire ravaged areas having been rained upon.

 

Give thanks.

The “I-Am” Exercise

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Activate your heart chakra with the ‘I-am” exercise. [breathing with your intention on your heart chakra – the breast bone or sternum and think “I” or say “I” silently on the in breath. breath-out and say “am” silently or think “am” on the out breath. Let a resonance of feeling engender in your heart chakra.

The heart chakra is the source of emotion. Our cognitive processes (neo cortex) interpret, delineate and name emotions that we feel. Love is the underpinning of all emotion.

The purpose of the “I-Am” exercise is to activate and affirm our emotional presence.

 

“I Made a Mistake, I Apologize.”

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In April of 1983 I was living at Eden Square Apartments in midtown Stockton, California. Parking was on the street. I had moved there in November of 1983.  I had moved to the Big Valley in 1982 from the east coast where I was unfamiliar with the kind of parking described below.

I parked on East Acacia – a side street. The front entrance was on El Dorado around the corner.

A guy started shouting at me and pointing at the street. At first I paid him no heed and continued to walk away.

“Hey you, Guy! You parked wrong.” He was yelling at me.

I stopped and looked at him.

       “What?”

He jabbed his arm / finger towards my car and shouted:

“You parked wrong.”

“Its how I always park,” and started to walk away.

“You see those lines painted on the street?”

“What?”

He pointed to the lines painted on the street. I looked.

“They’re there for a reason, buddy,” he was boiling mad.

The lines on the street were like a grid.

Duh, I got it.

 

 “Sorry, didn’t see it. Didn’t think to look. I’m sorry. I’ll move my car.” I got in and moved the car to in-between the lines.

 

            This guy was suddenly my best friend. Immediately his mouth dropped. He invited me to join him at Gold’s Gym- below my apartment building. I respectfully declined.

            He shook my hand and thanked me.

 

 

 

Negative Emotions – part one of two

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What is the function of negative emotions? Why do we have them?

The seven deadly sins not withstanding negative emotions originate from our earliest beginnings and are built for our biological survival from immediate danger.

The seven deadly sins – put forth by the theology of the Roman Catholic Church are immersed in judgment and morality, but worth a look:

  • Pride (pride is a good emotion when not excessively indulged in creating hubris) Hubris is excessive pride where the “prideful” person is often divorced from reality and has an overly confident stance
  • Greed – a desire to possess more than one needs and seems to be addictive (greed for money – excessive wealth, power, status or the acquisition of things)
  • Lust – excessive desire for an experience or thing, mostly lust for sex, but could also be lust for power, another addictive emotion.
  • Envy – a desire to have what another has which can destroy the person experiencing this emotion due to possessiveness / greed (also addictive)
  • Gluttony – over indulgence in food and drink (also addictive)
  • Wrath – or anger / rage and when accompanied with violence is a volatile emotion (also can be addictive)
  • Sloth – laziness or apathy related to depressive emotions.

 

Many people of “new age” view negative emotions as unwanted and bad.

The Seven Deadly Sins or Negative Emotions particularly greed, lust, envy, gluttony, hubris and wrath appear to arise out of addictive emotional / somatic elements that are substitutes for the lack of love and the bond of love needed for children. Sloth may arise from depressive emotions.

It would appear that hubris, greed, excessive lust, wrath and envy are extremely addictive emotions that arise from maladaptive behaviors within society and whose basis derives from avoiding fears or an inability to deal with fears.

Part of the purpose emotions involves how humans become attached to life on earth. This process may be likened to an attachment, an identification and / or addiction to the experiences of life. More on the function of emotions in an evolutionary process in Part Two.

I think its safe to say that we as humans have experienced one or more the seven deadly negative emotions at some point in our lives.

If someone tells you your having negative emotions then they are putting judgments on you and shaming you for emotions that are common to us all. But wait – what they are really doing is judging you for expressing so-called “negative” emotions in an ineffective manner that is often called “acting-out”. Negative emotions expressed negatively are quite common because we have little to no emotional education and may be furthering the cause of make negative emotions increasingly negative.

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Many people of “new age” view negative emotions as unwanted and bad. These emotions must be expunged or eradicated and replaced by positive feelings through affirmations, meditation etc. They often believe that the ego is bad and is associated with negative emotions and that the divine self or egoless self promotes only positive emotions. When the “negative emotions” are cut loose then a belief develops that the ego is functioning on an increasingly positive vector. This “cutting loose” of negative emotions may be an illusion based on a belief that the power of the mind (over matter) – over negative emotions when the emotion may have gone underground through denial, repression or suppression. This “new age” line of reasoning is based on many faulty assumptions that will be explored in part two.

Anger and/or rage may be the one negative emotion that may be wanted because it fuels righteousness and a sense of power over others and can be very addictive and abusive.

Negative emotions may produce a fight or flight response. When no immediate danger is present then the acting-out expression of negative emotions often repel others. Negative emotions are not always wanted and sometimes abhorred. Many a time I have heard clients and acquaintances say: “I want to get rid of this feeling.” This kind of thinking is based both on a desire to focus only on positive emotions and avoid negative ones and a basic flaw in our emotional education albeit informal. A misunderstanding of the functions of all emotions, positive, negative, mixed feelings and neutral feelings creates a stigma around negative emotions. The result is a misunderstanding of the function of negative emotions and a disservice to our growth and evolution.

There is a unspoken bias in our civilization that emotional states are divided into two groups so feelings can be reduced to the simplest terms for understanding. However this creates a trap so that negative emotions are seldom addressed effectively.

Some values of Negative and Positive Emotions

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positive

unwanted wanted
unpleasant pleasant
shunned exalted

Emotions, especially negative emotions are usually expressed through stories especially amongst those of with no formal emotional education. Storytelling usually serves the function of describing the emotion without naming it and it justifies the storyteller in feeling a certain way adding morality such as I am right for feeling this way and it implies that the other person is “wrong” for feeling another way in the context of the story. In stories emotions are not left to stand on their own. Morality, judgments, rationalizations and justifications are attached to emotional states in an attempt to make one person better than another, the other being “the cause” of the emotional state – often negative.

Venting is a common storytelling morality play that serves in keeping the venter stuck in feeling and recycling the negative emotion as part of a cognitive belief.

Often it is through venting with / to another (or with our self) that many negative emotions become apparent and may be released however this is not so often the case. Venting doesn’t solve the source of the negative emotion it only lets it out to air. The underlying dysfunction from the past remains unsolved and venting begins again. This can take a variety of forms. Complaining is one kind of rift that is a kind of venting filled with storytelling ripe with frustrations, self-reproach and self-pity. I had a friend that would seek me out to vent about her relationship and ask for advice. She would paint herself as a victim: feel guilty, self-pitying and frustrated. She would ask for advice and I offered advice. Rinse-repeat. She never followed my advice. For a while I just listened. She repeatedly asked me what she should do. Finally I told her – I didn’t know and that I couldn’t help her and that she could seek therapy.

Repeated venting is often a rational justification for negative feelings through storytelling. Often the emotion is not expressed directly. The story has to do what the person has done and what was done to the person and a justification of righteousness. Repeated venting becomes an addiction. The justification for being right is separate from feelings (cognitive dissonance) and keeps the venter from taking action thus keeping people in the place of venting. This is especially true with regard to anger and rage. The emotion inflates the self of self and is linked to thinking of being right. When an injustice becomes evident many of like-mind become angry and the venting begins. Becoming angry / rageful over a perceived injustice may often be warranted and the anger may be an acting out that does not achieve justice. Venting is the result. Many of the group doesn’t take action or if they do there is no immediate result so more venting is warranted. When venting recycles enough it becomes addictive and no actionable results are produced.

Anger and/or rage may be the one negative emotion that may be wanted because it fuels righteousness and a sense of power over others and can be very addictive and abusive. Historically anger comes from the fight principle in defending the self from immediate danger. In our daily social politics those that display anger and / or rage do so from “acting-out” behaviors that may be adult tantrums that are refined or unrefined. Seldom I have seen anyone arousing anger in them selves as an effective emotion. Those that are acting-out their angers are impossible to avoid unless we run from them. Intervening with someone who is acting-out anger or rage is potentially dangerous due to the possibility of violence.

My father enjoyed baiting me into arguments so he could dominate me with his premises and make me bad, wrong and stupid. During the Vietnam war I constantly argued with him. I asked my lover during that time to assist me with the debate.

I said: “I feel all war, all killing is wrong.”

He said: “We have to defend our allies against the Commies.”

She said: “A feeling is a feeling. Its not right or wrong, it just is.”

From that point on I was able to diffuse all of my Father’s attacks (unless he had been drinking) by identifying his premise and either disagreeing with it or ask him if he meant to hurt my feelings with his argument.

This curtailed his yelling at me that I was bad wrong or stupid and we engaged in playful joking or conversations about the weather.

Many of us have been trained to believe that others are responsible for our emotional state. “You make me so mad,” and other similar statements allow us to remain children without power. Certainly our emotions may be triggered to arise from the unpleasant manifestations of others.

Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements speaks to others emotions and judgments. The second agreement:

Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

 

An honest approach to emotional expression may look something like this:

“I feel angry right now and I realize this is in no way your fault. I was triggered when you did such and such. If you’d like to assist me in processing my feeling that’s okay. Otherwise I’ll just sit with the feeling myself.”

Obviously this is ideal. When we come from environments where acting-out negative emotions and behaviors are modeled its difficult to make a transition to taking responsibility for or emotions.

In Part Two the function and necessity of negative emotions are discussed as a part of the way towards mastery.

Dealing with Anxiety – a primer

The Unhealthy World

Anxiety arises from fear and it protects us from danger.

Anxiety has become a complex problem due to many factors.

There are two types of anxieties. One is exogenous and one endogenous. Exogenous means something that is produced outside of us. In and in the way I am using this word is directing the cause of anxiety to an event in our immediate present or near future. Endogenous means causes by something within us and I surmise that this type of anxiety began in the outside world in one or many traumatic events so that it appears to become internally produced or triggered. In this case there is no identifiable cause of feeling anxious and this becomes an existential condition.

Part of what the drug industry has done in helping to treat anxiety has made the emotion an undesirable problem to be eliminated or under constant management.

Exogenous anxiety is a cause and effect relationship. I’m anxious about my day in court. The day comes – it wasn’t as bad as I thought, I feel relived and anxiety is reduced significantly. However if I have experienced clustered exogenous anxiety producing events as a child then these can easily translate into an endogenous anxiety condition.

The two basic systemic problems of coping / dealing with anxiety are as follows:

  • We live in a complex world undergoing transformations even beyond institutional control that are stressful and anxiety producing.
  • Denial that anxiety is an emotion that could be valuable and is thus thought of as an emotion to be constantly controlled or virtually eliminated.

Part of what the drug industry has done in helping to treat anxiety has made the emotion an undesirable problem to be eliminated or under constant management. It is the perfect emotion to target with a product because our attitude towards the emotion (to be gotten rid of) and a world that is a nest for increasing anxieties and thus provides continuing and increasing profits. And it is not that simple either.

The use of street or illicit drugs at a young age for self-medication (dealing with depression and anxiety) and the concurrent addiction issues along with marketed pharmaceuticals on television has engendered a culture that looks to legal drugs to squash emotional problems of anxiety and depression amongst others. And while this may be effective it reduces our ability as a culture for self-reliant behaviors and creative problem solving.

Tolerating anxiety comes from learning and experience.

What happens when a younger person uses street drugs or prescribed medications to diminish anxiety, the anxiety goes away. Emotional growth stops at the age when street drugs and/or prescription drugs are used and often abused. A drug abusing person enters into a drug-culture. Later in life when a person wants to genuinely deal with emotional and psychologically difficulties their emotional responses may be childlike or childish because of legal or illegal drug use. Cognitively they may act like adults but when beset by anxiety they become stuck children. The frustration is overwhelming and dependence on drugs legal or illegal provides instantaneous relief.

 

Beginning to Deal with Anxiety

There are two basic strategies in dealing with anxiety:

  • Tolerate it until is dissipates.
  • Deal with it directly or indirectly.

In order to be able to tolerate anxiety one has to have had a history with it. Embedded in your history are the methods used to cope with anxiety until it goes away or disappears into the subconscious. Tolerating anxiety comes from learning and experience. Even part of tolerating anxiety becomes a part of dealing directly or indirectly with it.

Part of dealing with anxiety directly is being present, centered and grounded in our bodies.

In dealing indirectly with anxiety comes the use of distractions. Some of the distractions may be healthy and some unhealthy. If you are depressed and you begin using methamphetamines to lift your mood, you will get an instantaneous lift from depression along with feelings of grandiosity and anxiety / excitement and this will be temporary. If you use marijuana to reduce anxiety you may become insular, depressed and /or paranoid if used to excess. Watching television to excess can make a healthy distraction unhealthy serve to isolate the individual etc.

Some distractions can also be a direct strategy in lowering anxiety. Taking a walk in nature or a run is one way to burn and / create energy to lower anxiety. It distracts the mind from the feeling and allows the body to detox anxiety on a cellular level.

Part of dealing with anxiety directly is being present, centered and grounded in our bodies. In most modern cultures citizens don’t live in the body, we live in our minds (this also cold be called a preoccupation with thoughts to the exclusion of emotions and the sensory phenomena of the body). We know we have a physical body but we may be unaware of the body in a sensorial manner. Only un-mechanized agrarian cultures may remain in their bodies.

Immediate anxiety is an emotion that serves us when we are afraid and that fear is immediate. Anxiety serves to heighten awareness in this instance of immediacy. If a person is anxious about crossing the street because drivers are going through crosswalks illegally, anxiety and fear protect us from being hit by careless motorists. This is anxiety is exogenous.

Endogenous anxiety may be a feeling of dread upon awakening that develops into a full-blown anxiety attack. When that happens medications may or may not help. Practicing being aware of our body and our breath prior to a panic attack or increased unmanageable anxiety can assist in helping to lower anxious states if one remembers to employ the techniques. Dealing directly with anxiety can take on a number of strategies including:

  • Breath work
  • Systematized processes of reducing tension in various body parts allowing the person to be present with a body in a state of continuing relaxation.
  • a hot bath or shower
  • Receiving a massage
  • Drinking a relaxing non-caffeinated beverage
  • Listening to soothing (floatie-driftie) music
  • Reading
  • Sitting under a tree
  • Being with Redwood trees
  • Watching the waves at a beach
  • Soaking one’s feet in a foot bath
  • Centering and grounding
  • Hiking on a trail in nature
  • Running / Jogging
  • Swimming
  • Meditating

 

Besides using pharmaceutical anti-anxieties there are a number of natural alternatives. The supplement GABA or Gamma-Aminobutyric Acid is a neurotransmitter that has a number of benefits including lowering anxiety and … http://www.webmd.com/vitamins-and-supplements/gaba-uses-and-risks

 

And Acontium Napellus 30 c – a homeopathic formula for anxiety

 

 

Empathic Protection

Originally published May 21, 2015 and updated June 3, 2017

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Most children are empaths. Many people are empaths and sometimes this is a matter of degree. If we begin to think as the empathic ability as a continuum then sometimes people are highly empathic – highly sensitive and sometimes less empathic perhaps due to circumstance and/or better boundaries. However in every social group there may be one or more empaths that may function as checks for both conscious and unconscious emotional patterns within a particular group.

A client who was an empath asked me how she could keep out “bad energy” or “negative feelings”. How could she protect herself? This is a good question. No one who is an empath stays in a feeling place all the time. We go into our intellect as a way of protecting ourselves from the suffering of the world and from our own suffering.

Emotion is analogous to flowing water.

No one can stay in the heart one hundred percent of the time without breaking down. The best parts of ego allow us to balance emotions with the intellect. It is possible for an empath, stuck in fear for example, to begin to rationalize judge and exclude others shifting themselves from the heart into the mind and using the intellect as a fortress against emotions. A person overwhelmed with emotion could be fearful, defensive and react in anger if they are unaware of the empathic abilities. Other empaths may seem to attract nothing but negative energy from others (see Shadowcatchers below) and this may originate from being scapegoated as a child and accepting the role as an adult. Balancing mind and emotions requires attention and the use of thinking to identify emotions in others and our selves. Once we engage the mind to identify emotions we can develop a plan of action to help us cope with others’ feelings (see example below).

Most people who are empathic sponges would like to keep bad stuff out and let only the good stuff in, that’s only natural.

 

The best defense for empaths is flow.

 

Let it flow through you. A metaphor for flow of emotions is a fast flowing stream, waterfall or river. Emotion is the empaths currency. Emotion appears, we sometimes process it and then it goes. Empaths ability to feel others’ emotions and identify these emotions can be developed into a skill and can trigger responses in empaths that remind us of woundings from the past. As soon as you realize you are triggered remind yourself that you wouldn’t be able to recognize the trigger unless you were ready to deal with it.

If the empath can answer these questions when feeling others’ emotions then protection becomes simplified somewhat:

  1. Does this feeling I’m feeling belong to me? (Does it originate with me?)
  2. If YES, decide whether to deal with it in current time or postpone it until you can deal with it.
  3. If NO, then either let it flow through you quickly and ground it down into Molten Core of Earth, or offer it to be burnt up in the sun, or create a column of light to the left or right of you and put the emotion or set of emotions in the column of light.
  4. If MAYBE, it’s likely that the emotions that you’re feeling are similar emotions than the persons or persons producing them and you have lessons to learn here or you feel triggered. Ask that Spirit separate your feelings from the others and then deal with the feelings from the others as you would in #3 and /or in #1.

Many times the four-question method above may not be possible. When we encounter others’ emotions we may be overwhelmed with their emotions. Their emotions may trigger similar emotions in us. Part of our abilities as empaths is recognizing the common threads of emotion that bond humans together. Two common emotions that humans feel are grief and love. Feeling love in another or in others feels good. Feeling grief can be problematic. Part of the problem is that grief can spawn feelings such as sadness, anger / rage and these can turn into depression sometimes. Recognizing when you are triggered and dealing with the trigger is a first step at diffusing overwhelming emotions.

There can be two kinds of empaths for the purposes of this piece.[1] If you are reading this and feel you are an empath then you are on the path of a Conscious Empath. However there are unconscious empaths. These people become overwhelmed without knowing the reasons and sometimes blame others or become depressed. Their childhood traumas may be so complicated and their self-images so solid with walls instead of boundaries that their empathic abilities overwhelm them and prevent them from seeing triggers. They cannot process the overwhelming emotional onslaught without help. Usually some of these people feel they don’t need help.

You may also be a Shadowcatcher.

You may be a magnet for others shadows. Shadowcatchers may be absorbers of others unconscious projections. Essentially a shadowcatcher feels the shadow of another or shadows from groups. I noticed this when I was a participant in a healing circle. The facilitator asked for loving and healing energies from the group through coming forward – for a laying-on of hands or from our spot in the circle. Immediately I felt a surge of resentment and anger that was overwhelming. It happened many times until I realized what I was feelings was not coming from me. And as soon as I grounded it out I felt the love and was able to participate in the healing circle.

Sensitive people always attract less sensitive people to them especially if one or both parties are not conscious of their sensitivities. In psychology this is called Projective Identification.[2] Our culture often brands sensitive people as “weak” when in fact the opposite is true. I grew up in a stiff upper-lip Yankee family where tears were rarely shed. My Mother would shame me for my tearful behaviors by saying – “You’re too sensitive.” Often it was she who was projecting feelings onto me that I could express and then she would shame me for having done so because she did not want to acknowledge the feelings in herself. When sensitive people become aware of their sensitivities and can name their feelings and take responsibility for them with “I feel” statements then merely on the psychological basis feelings can be owned and the blame/shame game can be reduced.

If you are an empath that becomes infected with the shadows of others and these shadows blend with your emotions, then problems can become severely compounded. As a child and survivor of ritual sexual abuse that had been repressed I was severely depressed and passively suicidal for all of my teen years. When the memories of abuse began surfacing in my 40s I was able to begin to deal with the feelings and slowly work through the most arduous territories of the abuse. Every person on the planet has grown-up in a dysfunctional family to one degree or another. If you played the role of an empath in your family and that particular family was highly dysfunctional and negative then its likely that you may be carrying your family shadow and are acting out what had been passed on to you. There are three paths of approach that may help with your healing:

 

  • A daily spiritual practice that includes working on developing a non-judgmental and compassionate observed of your behaviors, thoughts and emotions (feelings)
  • Therapy
  • A visit to a healer to assist in removing possible ancestral beings stuck in your electromagnetic field.

 

I have been engaged in a daily spiritual practice for over 40 years and more intensely during the flashbacks of the abuse.

 

 

[1] The range of empathic abilities: https://lonerwolf.com/what-type-of-empath-are-you/

 

 

[2] Shadowcatchers in psychological terms: http://drs-oleary.com/Projective_Identification.htm

 

A practice of saying “thank-you” from the heart

As a recovering perfectionist I learned how to receive compliments and let go of doubt, low self-esteem and the constant need to be perfect in just a moment.

I was attending a Gurdjieff (Spiritual) School in the early 1980s. We were organized into groups for the first semester based on type. I was in a group of individualists who were creative, inventive loners, not playing well with others and had a cynical / angry / awkward edge to each of us. Our team / cooperation skills weren’t very good and so we were assigned to repair a truck gather wood while other groups worked on construction projects – finishing a greenhouse and building a loafing shed, and working on building a house. Our lack of teamwork and inexperience became evident when cooking a dinner. Our first dinner cooked by the ten of us for ourselves and 30 other students was a disaster. The appointed manager didn’t know what he was doing. But we improved.

After Thanksgiving I was manager for a meal. A woman from a group that made the best dinners approached me just before an evening class and congratulated me on doing a good job. I started to say that it could have been better (or perfect). Her reaction to my self deprecation was disappointment. In that moment I felt her praise, took it into my heart, looked her in the eyes and said:

                                                   Thank-you.



I saw that she was warmed by my acceptance of her compliment. This demonstrated an important principle of energy exchange.
It demonstrated a cycle of giving and receiving. When we work to accept a compliment in a heartfelt way we allow ourselves to receive a gift from another. When we say: “Thank-you” and look the person giving the compliment in the eyes we honor that person and acknowledge their gift with tender loving kindness. They gave us a compliment from a place of love and we have returned that compliment in kind. Giving and receiving is not a closed loop, it opens and allows energy to build.
The logical end of giving and receiving is a new economy based on community, cooperation where all are included…