Lost and – Found

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As I get older I seem to lose stuff. I lost my cell phone a few years back, called my provider had them deactivate the account and then a few hours later found the phone. Where? It was where I had left it. But I didn’t employ the finding techniques I have sometimes used to find lost or misplaced stuff.

A friend who has since passed into another life without her body passed on this technique:

The Eye-Flicking – Remembering where I put It – tool

The women that discovered / invented EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) for dealing with people suffering from PTSD, used eye movement to recover and reintegrate repressed memories. My friend said – though this may not have been accurate that the woman, Francine Shapiro was flicking her eyes back and forth to allow a memory to return. My friend said it was possible to move throughout one’s home – flick your eyes back and forth – not in an attempt to visually find the object that you lost but to uncover the memory of where it was. This worked for me a few times.

Cleaning one’s house tool – Frantically cleaning your house to find where you misplaced stuff – works sometimes but not enough.

The Tony-Tony tool – was given to me by a good friend of Italian-American heritage who passed away too young (in my book). Tony is short for St. Anthony finder of lost objects and who also had an undying love and devotion to the poor and the sick. Here’s how this works:

  1. begin with this chant: “Tony, Tony, come around, something’s lost and must be found.” It could be chanted x3.
  2. Wait until it shows up – up to 48 hours
  3. If it shows give anywhere from $1 to $20 to St. Anthony’s to help feed the poor at Christmas.

This worked the best for me. Back in the day when I didn’t have much money to give I started with a dollar. When it reached 10 found items of more I wrote a check to St. Anthony’s of San Francisco, CA.

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A Code of Conduct for Men with Women, Children and Other Men

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Or Equality Hugging

Preface

Men are in a position of power in this culture because of their gender and that has been invisible for the most part to them. Women have known about the abuses of men’s power positions for as long as the patriarch is old. It’s becoming more visible now, thankfully and has a long way to go. Men have set many precedents to treat women and others as objects to be subjugated and this has remained acceptable and even hailed as “good” amongst men and some women.

Men who have been victims of sexual crimes such as rape, sexual assault, violations, incest and ritualized sexual abuse as children and feel to be victims / survivors are keenly aware of men’s power than those men acting as perpetrators.

A Possible Code of Conduct

When I was recovering from memories of having been raped as a child I began to create boundaries. Many people men and women make a tacit assumption – it is okay to hug. Amongst my friends and acquaintances I had to stop people from hugging me. I asked them to ask me if was okay to hug me.

Some men employ the bear-hug. This is a clamping down on the hugee to a point where the hugee is crushed by the hugger. Most hugs are unequal. There is a hugger and a hugee. The hugger gives a hug or is the aggressive hugger – even if gentle. The receiver of the hug does just that – receives without choice in the matter. Most hugs are not shared they are given and received. An aggressive hugger can “get-off” sexually on the hug without any seeming impropriety. The best a receiver of a hug may be able to do is the A-Frame Hug. They lean into the giver’s hug with their head and shoulders. Only the very top of their chests may be in contact with the other.

 

The Code of Conduct is Simple

Step One:

“May I give you a hug?”

“Yes.”     Or      “No.”

 

Step Two:

Or you could re-frame the experience:

“May I give you a hug?” Could be met with:

“No, but I will share a hug with you.”

“Same difference,” the hug perpetrator could say.

Response – Walk away

Or they could say: “What does that mean?”

If its said sarcastically its probably best to refuse all together and walk away.

 

In sharing a hug –

Each hugger gives and receives the hug equally.

Explanation and practice required.

 

Am I splitting hairs? Maybe, but I don’t think so…

 

The Backwards Life and What Else

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A client once asked me: “You must have to travel out there pretty far to see what you see, right?’

“No, I just include,” my answer was immediate.

“How does that work?”

I would answer my non-answer answer: “All life is One. That’s how it works.”

Language, Ego and time – most notably linear time – hold us prisoner to our separateness.

It doesn’t explain how it works from a linear time perspective.

Ego, language, time, science and self are predicated on “the me” and “the not-me”.

By being expanded self and time that includes our current lifetime and all past and future lifetimes “the me” and “the not-me” are included as one.

 

All Life is One.

 

We are bound by the invention of time. Language, Ego and time – most notably linear time – hold us prisoner to our separateness. It is the wordless language of the heart that frees us from linear time into boundless world of Love, Compassion, and Oneness.

In the beginning we were One.

Inclusivity (the urge to include) may be the bridge between ego / linear time and the infinite of Love and Light.

In the beginning we were One. As we grew and learned to speak and think Oneness began to erode into “the me” and “the not-me”.  A child learns to say “NO!”

The rest of life seems to be a battle between defining “the me” and “the not-me” and feeling the Oneness. The “me and the “not-me” are illusions in a big drama to reconnect with the feeling of Oneness only to loose it so we reconnect with it repeatedly.

There are a number of philosophies of being. Two philosophies battle for authority.

 

  • A – One philosophy says we are strong hard-working people, believing in the strength and independence of the individual and freedom as paramount to all else. Opportunity abounds in a competitive culture and is there for the taking if we are strong, powerful individuals, working to take it.

 

  • B – Another philosophy says we are strong hard-working people living interdependently in community. Freedom and justice are partners in a web of interconnectivity where we all prosper in the spirit of love, cooperation and compassion. In this environment everybody wins.

Philosophy A is based on the power of the individual righteousness and a worldview of winners and losers. This is a fear-based system where greed is necessary. Competition in this framework sets up an environment of ultimate collapse followed by re-building.

Philosophy B. though operating inside pf Philosophy A, is based on community individuality, which allows finite competitiveness in a playful setting to weave with others in cooperation for prosperity for all. It allows for supportive measures to given to others that haven’t benefited from competitive capitalism until community inclusiveness can fully function.

 

All Life is One

Every Being is Holy

Earth, Air, Fire, Water, Plants, Animals and Humans

We bless All Life

Resolving by Our Work

To Pay the Debt of Our Existence.

 

The Principle of Creating a new kind of Prayer

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Language and time creates an artificial separation between the ever present now and a future. There is no future. It is there in our minds as something we believe to be true based on language and the trick of ego.

When we pray or ask the universe for something to happen from the future we reinforce the illusion of separateness. This keeps us from having or achieving that what we wish to create. We are separated from having or achieving due to the action of wish in relationship to time. The past and future are illusions that we invented through language to manage the world. Time is now. Even money is the currency of this illusion.

Let’s say there has been a drought or fires and rain is needed.

Go to a place in your neighborhood in nature where you feel a connection or a feeling of awe and power. Take off your shoes and socks if you wish. Stand on earth – grass or soil, twigs or leaves and feel the water beneath your feet, the mud or soaked socks and shoes (if you didn’t take them off). Smell the scents of earth after a long rich rain. Feel earth’s relief and looseness with the richness of plentiful water. Feel the wet on your skin, hair and clothing from the rains. See the drought or fire ravaged areas having been rained upon.

 

Give thanks.

The Happiness Prayer

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Happiness is what we are blessed with as babies. We get caught up in a world of having, goals, and conquest in “the pursuit of happiness”. The past isn’t a separate place “back there” – the memories of the past exists in the present and the emotions are the link to the ever expanding now.

You’re scrolling through the photos on your phone, tablet or computer (or a photo album / loose photos) and you come across a photo of you and your friends, family or loved ones.

You remember what it was like in this photo, the sounds, the conversations, the quality of the air, the laughter, the feelings of companionship and love. Looking at the photograph you feel the happiness and love you felt with your friends, family and/or lovers – your community.

You reflect on those feelings and allow yourself to feel those feelings now. Feel the peace, feel the love, feel the happiness.

Reflecting on feelings of happiness elicits the feelings to arise now.

You give thanks.

 

 

Vision: And the Headline reads –

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Vision –

Headline to read:

Impeachment Imminent –

Trump Invalidated – Nation Healing

Trumps resigns and flees US to avoid charges of treason

GOP indicting President Trump for Treason, violations of the Emoluments Act, Obstruction of Justice – impeachment vote confirmed.

Trump avoided impeachment by resigning and fled the United States in a flurry of Twitter accusations against the GOP, the FBI and and CIA in his flight to Morocco. Trump administration resigning. Trump avoided indictments of treason and arrest warrants being issued by fleeing the US to Morocco with no extradition.

Vice President Pence to be sworn in as President.

Astrological Confluences

Mercury and The Moon are chief players in this confluence…

An astrological event such as the one we find ourselves in now (11.28.17) and an upcoming 12.3.17 full moon with 12.2.17 Mercury retrograding dancing around Saturn for a second time will no doubt be interesting.

Mercury Retrograding dancing with Saturn direct

First – Mercury has been hanging around at 29 degrees Sagittarius and will go retrograde on Saturday, December 2 at 11:34 PM PST and then direct on Friday, December 22 at 5:51 PM PST at 13 degrees of Sagittarius. I subscribe to a different interpretation of the meaning of retrograde that most Western Astrologers, one that is held by Jyotish or Hindu – Eastern Astrologers that purports that retrograde planets due to a closer proximity to Earth – then the energies of the retrograde planet are more intense.

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When a planet is at 29 degrees of whatever sign it is in it is considered karmic because it represents the penultimate of that sign. All the good, bad and ugliness of that sign is crammed into that end degree and since there are no lines in space it also is on the cusp meaning that it has characteristics of the next sign. If you were born on the 19th to the 22nd of any month you may have your Sun at 29 degrees and have had extra karma to deal with-which is probably no big deal because you have survived and have been dealing with it.

With Mercury retrograding at 29 degrees blending its energies with Saturn – we will have intensely karmic thinking and communicating that could produce outbursts and faux pas of gargantuan proportions (Sagittarian) that will more than likely contribute to truths about authority being exposed or surfacing in a messy fashion. A piece I wrote at the beginning of November about astrological and male sexual abuse of women (and men) – these issues will continue more truths will surface be talked about https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2017/11/16/abuses-of-male-sexual-power-astrology/ .

Gemini ruled by Mercury is an expression of thought appearing in chaos and merriment to solve complex problems verbally in local communication with another.

 

These issues will continue and all those that have been oppressed by sexual abuses and other kinds of abuse will grow more intense as authority is questioned and challenged. It may be likely that if the GOP Tax Scam is passed by the Senate that it may not come to pass between the House and Senate and with truths surfacing about POTUS that will put him closer to impeachment. If it the tax scam passes it will with good certainty be repealed.

Monday, December 6th could be an explosive day for a revolutionary truth about authority that could support the underdog / oppressed.

Mercury retrograde – or the intensities of thinking and communicating big ideas and truths will present revolutionary ideas and challenges to authority supporting the oppressed between December 2nd and the 22nd. (Mercury blended with Saturn –in Sagittarius in harmony with Uranus-also retrograding blended with Pallas Athena– asteroid also retrograding in Aries).

 

Full Moon in Gemini

Gemini is an interesting sign – the twins. I liken it to going to the opposite ends of the earth to hold the space of oneness together in the center. Gemini ruled by Mercury is an expression of thought appearing in chaos and merriment to solve complex problems verbally in local communication with another.

Full Moons are always opposite the Sun and represent an emotional – coming to fruition of whatever seeds were planted during the last New Moon (on November 18th) at 26 degrees nineteen minutes Scorpio. The cycle of the Moon is about emotional cycles within us as well as gravitational effects upon us. https://psychesweather.wordpress.com/2017/04/09/a-moon-cycle-ritual/

Mercury in retrograde may prompt fierce and seemingly chaotic discussions fueled with grandiosity or largess, sound like someone we all know? Well there is an authority – Saturn in revolution – Uranus nearby to blurt out truths – on the low side. On the high side – creative communications and ideas emerge in revolutionary / evolutionary ways under a new emerging international authority allowing balance actions (Mars / Actions in Libra / Balance in a fight with revolution supported by the truth of the people.

The Other Side of Gratefulness

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Part of this season of giving thanks is a reminder to feel humbled and grateful for the blessings in our lives. This could be gratefulness to friends, to food, to shelter, to a thankfulness that the roof stays over the head and doesn’t fall down.

I think we’re all aware of feeling irritated, frustrated, infuriated by the injustices…

The other side of gratefulness is to be thankful for all that is irritating and produces feelings of frustration and anger. Feelings of gratefulness to loss through “breaking-up”, loss from death of a family members, spouse, and/or best friend. You may think these are strange feelings and happenstances to feel grateful.

This kind of gratefulness brings my attention to basic underlying questions of my existence on the planet. While its great to feel grateful for what I think I have or how I relate I automatically exclude all that is unpleasant, irritating and infuriating. When I feel grateful to the pain in some bones of my left foot my attention is drawn there. I’m paying attention to something I might ordinarily forget and then I’m entering into a form of sleep.

Its easier to fight the injustices I perceive when I am grateful to the people that are eliciting unpleasant responses in me.

I think we’re all aware of feeling irritated, frustrated, infuriated by the injustices we perceive in the world around us, but when we are reminded to feel grateful we exclude those unpleasantries, because their unpleasant. When I include all those unpleasant feelings and I allow myself to feel grateful for these feelings something extraordinary abet subtle unfolds. My heart softens towards those situations and people that triggers the irritation in me. Intellectually I begin to understand their point of view even though I voraciously disagreed with them. My awareness expands and I include their beingness while continuing to disagree.

When I make room in my life for irritation and the like more people are included in the tissues of interconnectivity.

Its easier to fight the injustices I perceive when I am grateful to the people that are eliciting unpleasant responses in me. It reminds me that I am a flawed imperfect being and that other human citizens are as flawed as I am. This teaches me to “not take the issues in contention not so personally”. Of course I do – I do take the issues I interpret as injustices personally.

I tell myself to expand my gratefulness practice to include, that which is easy, and that which is tough to practice on a daily basis – and I forget to do this. I often remember that the other person isn’t perfect and I am trying to include them by releasing my irritation and softening my heart to include them in friendship. This works sometimes.

When I make room in my life for irritation and the like more people are included in the tissues of interconnectivity. Debating with these individuals makes more sense when I am grateful for the irritations that connect us because I am working on taking this less personally.

Womb with a View – satire

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“I just met with sixteen hundred of our new potential constituents, in the first trimester,” Carol said.

“And are they with us?”

“I did my best. A little over one thousand have detected that they are unwanted being carried by either by unwed mothers or by mothers who aren’t sure they want to carry their babies. One thousand want to return to the “before-space” mainly because it’s not cramped. They report that the corporeal form they occupy is very primitive and brain function is minimal. Some are hoping for miscarriages because its the easiest way to release, but in leu of that abortion is okay. They don’t want to be here and are not interested in joining any political party. If they are forced to stay most would choose anarchy, but some would be socialists. I gave some of them vouchers, about two hundred souls or so.

“Of the remaining four hundred and thirty four, three hundred and two have declared themselves independents and aren’t interested in politics and think money is funny or stupid. They could be potential progressives. The others are divided into two or three categories. One group is definitely with us and about a third of them have vouchers. Another group could go in any direction and will ally with their families, some with the mothers and a smaller percentage with the father. They refused vouchers.

“The last group were very grumpy and claimed to be related to a guy I’ve never heard of – William F. Buckley Jr. I had to look him up. He was this elitist conservative type. They not only didn’t want vouchers and thought we live more in a welfare state than ever before. They wondered why we were soliciting voters in the womb.”

“Did you tell them?”

“Of course I did… But I have to tell you that this ‘Before-Space’ is a very appealing place. I’d go there tomorrow if I could. No money, no stress, no weight gain, no weight, no body. You can have sex there without any consequences, no children at all. They call it blending. I used to get blended in my 20s and the hangovers, well I don’t need to tell you. Expanded consciousness is the best thing. I guess death is something we can all look forward to.

“I asked them why they would want to leave the ‘Before-Space’ and they said it had to due with some weird attachment deal, a. Catch 22 thing. If you want to stay they boot you out, If you want to go,- trying to stay-  well you go but its a trick apparently.

“The people that don’t come back have the widest choices but they choose one thing over and over.”

“What? You’re killing me.”

“Its stupid. Its Love.”

“Well you know I’ve always loved you,” and Bob started his grab-ass thing.

“Get off me, you pig,” Carol pushed him away.

“You know what?

“What?”

“They want to know why we are courting their votes in the womb? And I told then the history. That in 2017, the GOP declared that they were citizens who could have funding to go to college and that’s when it all started.”

“What was their response?”

“They said that womb-life was too cramped and making promises was bullshit and they should be left alone by political parties and everybody else.

“I did see some conservative lobbyists there promising them fiscal responsibility. I heard giggling…”

“I gave them the survey and 100% of them said that Mom has a right to choose to send us back for another shot later when we are wanted.”